Wednesday, February 25, 2009

It's Just Me and You......

Have you ever found yourself in a place where you feel so alone, that you don't know what you are going to do? You're in a place that may be unfamiliar, but you've accepted that this is where you are supposed to be. This is place, that is not necessarily sad, but eriely quiet. It remains quiet, but then you begin to hear and feel something. It is the presence of God.

Now, you know you can feel all alone and be in a room full of people. You can feel all alone with a loving family. You can feel all alone even when you are successful and accomplished. Even with all the things you ever dreamed off. God can still isolate you so He can speak to you and make you better.

That's an indescrible feeling. I have often been in this place and I know that it is necessary for growth. There have been moments in my life where I have questioned my place in life and God has been right there. Many times, God wants us to be at a place where He is our only companion and place of refuge. If you ever find yourself in this isolated place, rejoice because God is about to do a great work. The road to this place may not be easy, but you have to have comfort in knowing the God is truly a redeemer. Nothing He does is by mistake or coincidence.

It is funny how we look back at our lives and begin to see how God has worked out certain situations that we thought we would have never gotten out of. It almost reads like a story book. That's how we should look at out lives and tough situations. Just like when a plot thickens in a book or a movie and a resolution soon follows. God said it plain as day in Jeremiah 29:11, For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. It is not like God to lie and it is not certainly like God to let you suffer. It is the "meantime" that's always difficult, but you must be encouraged to know that things will get better. No matter what "right now" looks now, tomorrow is promised to be better!

Now remember, God is truly a selfish god. So when God blesses us with out heart's desires, i.e. car, husband, job, family, money, we cannot begin to worship these things, but give reverence to Him. God loves for us to be grateful for what we have and know that He will be there no matter what! Hebrews 13:5 says, Keep your lives free from the love of money, and be content with what you have, for God has said, "I will never leave you or abandon you." He loves to be worshipped and praised, so we are mandated to do so.

In this time of isolation, look at it as a spiritual cocoon or incubator. Become better, stronger, and wiser. This may turn out to be the best time of your life. You will discover how much you should love yourself and more importantly, how much God loves you !

~Flyly separated

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

What are you looking at?

Have you been somewhere and notice someone staring at you for no reason at all? The "attitude" in you wants to be like "what are you looking at?" What you may not know is that you might actually be witnessing to a person.
Ok, let me explain. If a person looks at you, what do they see? Happiness, sadness, laughter, joy, peace, beauty, fierceness, or even God? Everyday, we encounter a myriad of people and we take our spirit with us. What our mouth doesn't say, our gestures, heart, and spirit does.

I've been notorious of saying, "Dude, what is it? What are you looking at?" and catch a complete attitude, but God corrected me. He told me clear as day that I was what someone needed. I'm usually pretty "glammed" when I come to work, so one day I decided to go completely natural, no eyeshadow, no blush, and a flat wrap. One of my co-workers was like, "Girl, what happened, you ok". I was like, "yeah, what's the big deal?". She went on to say that I reminded me of her mother that was always dolled up and well put together. Her mother passed away years ago.

Now you see, little did I know that seeing me all dolled up made an impact. That happens to each and everyone of us day to day. We have to be confident in who we are regardless of what others may so. The very thing that someone may deem as a flaw, might be the most beautiful and precious trait.

We should be aware of the subliminal messages that omit each day because we could truly be a blessing in disguise for others. A person could be hopeless, but sees that we are encouraging and filled with faith, and they may walk away feeling empowered. A person may have low self esteem, but sees our quiet beauty and our fashion sense and walk away feeling fabulous. A person may be lacking in the relationship department and see you with your boo or BFF and they feel encouraged knowing that God has someone from them. They may not know Christ, but they see how diligent you are in your works, and see Christ right here on Earth.

You see, sometimes, it's not about the big things that you can do to make an impact, it's the little things. Opening a door, paying someone's parking meter, bringing an extra sandwich for someone at work, or even helping someone up when they fall. You might be the God they need to see for the day.

When they say God is omnipresent, that doesn't necessarily mean He roaming the earth like a dinosaur. He's in me and you. It is ever so important that we know this because it will totally transform the way we think about ourselves and our interactions with others.

So today, instead of wondering why someone is looking at you, wonder what they are seeing. You might be the difference they need to go on.

Be blessed and know that you are the one that God will use today!

~Looking Flyly Blessed

Monday, February 23, 2009

Movie Review: Madea Goes to Jail

Yes, I went to see it, on opening night at a predominately Black theater. lol. You know the real comedy was going on in the audience. Between the church folk, the new parents, those "booed" up, and even those on the late night creep, we all joined together to support good ol' Tyler Perry!

Now, at first, I was like, I really hope this is better than Meet The Browns and Daddy's Little Girls. I am an avid Tyler supporter, but those 2 were not that great. Boy was I wrong. I think America was having Madea withdrawals over the past few films, but honey, Tyler gave us all an overdose of our favorite 6'5 matriarch in drag! lol.

The film was centered around Madea and her wildly lovable behavior. She reminds everyone of someone in their family, church, or community. I swear, she gave a gut busting performance at every turn!

My favoirte comedic scene was when Madea decided to leave the house on a suspended license and head to Kmart. Madea is riding through the parking lot and this quirky white lady in a little red sports car decides to zoom in front of Madea to get a parking spot. You know Madea went off right?! Madea tells the lady she is going to move her car and low and behold, she does. With a forklift! lol. Too hilarious. Consequently, the lady's husband was a police officer and they go to Madea's house to take her tail BACK to jail, where she is sentenced by Judge Mathis! She didn't go to jail without a fight, literally. She gave those officers a run for their money. All 6'5 of her (him) in a house dress rumbling and tumbling was too funny!

The concurrent storyline features a young buddy Assistant District Attorney, Derek Luke who is engaged to this Mulatto chick. I didn't bother to look up her name because I didn't like the way she did Derek ( Yea, I am totally biased! lol). He runs into an old childhood friend, Keisha Knight Pulliam, who is now living on the streets and turning tricks. This storyline of redemption turns into a lightweight love story, so you know I was all in! lol. I love the on screen chemistry they had, it was so believable. Keisha truly tried to break out of the Rudy Huxtable that we all knew. But she still rocked a remarkable white smile and gorgeous locks. (Couldn't help but to throw that in) .

Then Madea gooooooooooes to jail, hence the title. This is where the 2 story lines collide. Of course, Madea and Keisha were in the same area in jail. Madea becomes her surrogate guardian, keeping folks off of her and make a cute comical pair.

My absolute favorite part of the film was the scene where Derek Luke broke down. I won't give it all away, but that chocolate delight all emotional did something to me. (Not like that y' To see a Black man show such intensity with his emotion was absolutely breathtaking. He did that!

Overall, the movie was chicken soup for the soul. More like mac-n-cheese, cabbage, and fried chicken for the soul. lol. It was filled with a gamut of emotion and certainly was worth seeing on opening night. I would recommend this movie to anyone that is down and needs a good laugh. You will literally laugh out loud.

Go support Tyler, you will just love it!

~ Fly laughter....

Fly Guy: Derek Luke

Now, I have always been a fan of Antwone Fisher, but baby, let me tell you, that Derek Luke did his thang in Madea Goes to Jail. In the midst of the riotus humor, Luke brought a true sense of unconditonal love to the screen.

I just wanted to take this moment to focus on the great talent of Mr.Luke. Now, the thing I love about Derek Luke, is that he was discovered while working at the Studio Emporium gift shop on the Sony studio lot. Now if that isn't a testament of God finding you right where you are! You have to be at a place where God can use you. No matter what, you must be obedient! And not only this, he actually replaced Wesley Snipes in Miracle at St.Anna because Snipes had all those tax issues. Another testament of how God will have folks put OUT of place to put you IN place!

His rather brief bio, as provided by Wikipedia is as follows:

  • Luke was born in Jersey City, NJ , the son of pianist Marjorie Dixon and Guyanese native Maurice Luke, a former actor.

  • He has two brothers, Daniel and Maurice.

  • He is a graduate of Snyder High School in Jersey City, New Jersey.

  • Luke married singer- actor Sophia Adella Hernandez in 1998 ( I know, such heartbreak! lol)

  • Luke was discovered while working at the Studio Emporium gift shop on the Sony studio lot and given the Fisher role

  • Luke played one of the four male leads in Spike Lee's 2008 war film, Miracle at St.Anna replacing Wesley Snipes who had to leave the film due to his highly-publicized tax problems (Won't God do it)

  • He plays Alicia Keys' love interest in her new video Teenage Love Affair

  • Luke played Sean Combs alongside Jamal 'Gravy' Woolard as The Notorious B.I.G. and Angela Bassett as Voletta Wallace in the 2009 film Notorious.

For no other reason, I celebrate this Fly Guy for his ordered footsteps!!!

~I Heart Fly Guys!

Fly Guy : Tyler Perry

Tyler Perry has done it! “Madea Goes to Jail” was the number 1 film in U.S. and Canadian theaters over the weekend, opening with $41.1 million in sales. Now tell me God ain't GOOOOOOD! lol...

Now, being a member of his same church, Changing a Generation, formally known as Greater St.Stephens, where Bishop Paul S. Morton is the pastor, I have seen Mr. Perry on several occasions. In the time that I have been in his presence, he seemed to have truly been in the midst of battle. Whether it has been internally or with the people around him. Regardless of what he was wrestling with, he made it a point to never stop writing and dreaming. He is truly an example of God's faithfulness! When he spoke at the church, he literally broke down in front of all the people, telling of how all he has is God. His childhood was not the best, his family life wasn't conducive to growth, and he thought his life didn't have much hope. Ohhhhh, but GOD knew! He spoke of a time where he once was so broken and so lost, he didn't know how he was going to make it out. He sought God's face and listened to His words.

No matter how many obstacles he was faced with, he was determined to believe the promises that God revealed to him. Whenever there was a closed door or a "no", he worked even harder. His perseverance and faith have catapulted him to a place where very few African Americans have been, at the top! Not only is he at the top, but he has done so without the help of a lot of people. Now don't get me wrong, he has his select few that he professionally sticks with, but he has had to deal with so many "nay-sayers" that is a miracle that he is still standing.

Seeing Mr. Perry's success shows me that God can and will always be faithful to those that believe. In the midst of a storm, believe. When people tell you no, believe. When you have been denied, believe. When all odds are against you, believe.

And this weekend, enough folks believed in Mr. Perry and gave him double for his trouble. "Madea Goes to Jail,” , is his fourth to debut at first place in the box office and his biggest opening weekend ($41 million!) . In 2005, he made $21.9 million during the opening weekend with “Diary of a Mad Black Woman”. Now tell me God wasn't showing off! In total, he has grossed $320.3 million with Lion Gates Films. Not to mention how much his plays have grossed!

Now if Mr. Perry had not of pushed forward and believed in what God told him, he would not of been able to bless so many others with his messages of faith, family, hope, and belief. There are many critics that may not think his plays/movies are that great, but it is indeed a ministry. And when God places a ministry in a man, then He will make provisions for it. No matter what Mr. Perry faced, he has triumphed and showed that God can make anyone who believes VICTORIOUS!

I can't say it enough how God is! Ok, let me go type up this movie review so you all can go see it! lol

~Fly Adoration

Saturday, February 21, 2009

A Virtuous Woman

Proverbs 31:10-31 (King James Version)
10Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
31Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

When I look at Michelle Obama and other great women like my mother, I truly see what a Virtuous Woman should encompass. Loyalty, honesty, hard working, loving, nurturing, frugal, innovative, inspiring, thoughtful, name it ! You see, the term "virtuous" is from a noun meaning strength, efficiency, ability. This is the type of woman you want in your corner. lol... A virtuous woman has strength of character as well as moral strength and firmness. She is a rare and Godly jewel that simply has no price.

Now, there are so many different ways to discuss such a great woman, but I want to focus on the importance of being a virtuous woman as a whole and then a virtuous woman for 1 Godly man. In life, we have always dreamt (most of us) of our prince charming sweeping us off our feet and living in our house with a white picket fence and 2.5 kids. That's great and all, but somewhere along the lines, we lose focus. We are so caught up in wanting this great man, we don't focus on just us becoming great. I just finished reading this POWERFUL book about Ruth ( The Romance of Redemption by Diana Hagee) and home girl broke it down. We HAVE to trust God with who our mate is to be. There is no other way around it. True indeed, we all have our "types", but at the end of the day, if its not a God thing, then it doesn't matter.

Could you imagine being on a game show and being given the opportunity to pick a prize out of just 2 boxes. Both boxes are wrapped differently, each unique in a certain way. 1 box is nicer than the other, but something in you is telling you, you need to pick that box. The box that's not so extravagant. It's like you hear a small still voice saying, " Box 2, pick it, just Trust me", and you do. Before the game show host reveals to you what's in the box you chose, you get to see what was in the other box. Box #1 has a great career, job, and even a house! So you are like "MAN! I shoulda picked that box!" But you keep believing God that you made the right decision. And then the game show host reveals Box #2, your choice. Your stomach is rumbling and your heart is racing, you're hoping this is it! So your box's content is revealed and it's simply a golden key. So now you're like, "God, you play to much!", but then the back drop changes and it reveals 3 large golden doors. The nameplates on each door reads Love, Wealth, and Joy. Guess what, they key opens ALL those doors and more!

God is saying, if you trust me and read my word, I will give you the key that unlocks any door. No matter what your heart's desires are, if they are in my will, they shall be done. That is how I see it with life and in love, no matter what the circumstances may look like and no matter what people may say to come against what God has promised, it has to work out!

So, you must trust God that you are a virtuous woman and always conduct yourself as such. A virtuous woman must understand that she must be paired with a Godly man in order to fulfill her destiny. She must not fraternize with just any type of man. She knows that she is a priceless asset and must understand her worth. A virtuous woman trusts God to send her a Godly man. Not just any man, one that has been hand picked and carved by God himself.

In your life, strive to be all you can be, but above all be virtuous, that is who you were destined to be anyway. Each day is a journey. Take your time, learn all you can, and dream!

Forget fabulousity, I want virtuosity!

Ok....that's all..... lol . I will probably add more to this later :-)

~Virturously Fly.........

Friday, February 20, 2009

Chris Did This? Say it ain't so.......

I really have no words for this. It is just too early in the morning to get in to it. I will say this, we need to pray. Like, for real. This is just too much! This looks like a picture from the morgue and it is very, very saddening. Look at this girl's face. This is unbelievable!
We have to learn to control ourselves no matter what! It doesn't matter who started this argument, but this is what the results look like. I mean, was it that serious? And you know they are saying she is still texting and calling him. Now they are going to turn into Romeo and Juliet on us. I really, really pray that they don't anything crazy. I am not going to even write what I am thinking because there is power of life and death in the tongue and I am not going to give the enemy any room.
This is young love at its best, gone totally wrong. Rhianna took a bit of a turn when she started to do all that dark music and wearing dominatrix outfits. It was like a spirit began to take life in her. And you know when you have sex with someone, you take on their spirit as well. (I will definitely post a blog on this later) Lord, this is a mess.
Overall, I just pray that they learn from this season and that it passes over them. God is a God of more chances that we can think of. But it is from the point of forgiveness that we must move forward.
Didn't I say I wasn't going to get into this... lol..
Talk to you all later..
~In Fly Prayer

Use your gifts wisely....

Using your gifts really should be added as a Each and everyone of us has a unique gift. You may not know it or understand it, but you do. And every gift is unique to every person. Look at the entertainment world. All the actors, singers, song writers, rappers, dancers, etc. If all of our gifts their gifts were identical, then there would be no award shows, no record sales, none of the that. Everyone has their own way of using their gift to the best of their ability.

It is important to use our gifts. Not to make ourselves to look better but to glorify God and direct people to the kingdom. It is important, that is why God gave us different abilities to do things. You never know who you may be attracting to Him. God knew that when He created us. He knew the journey that we would once take, the people we would once meet, and the challenges that we might face. And he also knew he had to equip us with a gift that would prepare us for it all.

Some people may be blessed with more than one gift. That doesn't make them any better or worse, it simply means increased responsibility and more possibilities for growth. Proverbs 18:16 says, "A man's gift makes room for him And brings him before great men." This means no matter what God has blessed you with, no matter where you go, it will be your key to making it to the next level.

Usage of gifts opens up doors to favor, prosperity, and deliverance. So today, find your gift(s). No matter what your area (or areas) of expertise may be, trust that God is going to propel you to the next level. You have to be prepared for it through a prayerful life and confidence in God. Once you surrender to your calling and who you are to be, there is nothing that you cannot have.

~Flyly Blessed and Gifted

Thursday, February 19, 2009

In the meantime.....

Me: Soooooo God, I have prayed, cried, made a dream book, wrote a song, met with a prayer group, what do I do in the meantime while I
am waiting on my breakthrough?
God: You wait.
Me: Whaaaaaaaaaat? That's it? Just wait?
God: Yes, wait.
Yup, that's what He said. Just wait... That's the interesting thing about praying and getting them answered. God wants us to know that He is the author and the finisher of our faith. He has the ultimate say in all matters. Regardless of what it is.
So in the meantime, we need to understand what the may journey bring us. New friends, new experiences, learning something new, ministering to others, you just never know .The meantime is the most important part, not necessarily the journey.
When training for the marathon, you're not practicing for the actual finish line, you are training for every step that you take to get to the finish line. That's the same thing with God and this thing called faith. Preparation is necessary for success in anything. The only instruction manual that is provided for life is the bible and faith is mentioned:
422 in the NIV
378 in the American Standard
227 in The Message
509 in the Amplified
336 in the King James
474 in the English Standard.
625 in the Contemporary English
379 in the New King James
347 in the American Standard
460 in Today's New International Version

Now, I think that's saying A LOT. Faith is probably one of the most important aspects of your relationship with God, other than Love of course. So during your "meantimes" of life, understand that it is all apart of the plan. Just when you thought God forgot about you, your prayers, and your struggles, he shows right up and blesses you!

~In Fly Meantime..

Read these scriptures:

Eccl. 9.11 ...... that the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, neither yet bread to the wise, nor yet riches to men of understanding, nor yet favour to men of skill; but time and chance happeneth to them all.

Psa. 27.14 Wait for the Lord; Be strong, and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the Lord.
Psa. 37.9 For evildoers will be cut off, But those who wait for the Lord, they will inherit the land.

Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Red Lobster Shrimp Scampi Recipe

Honeeeeeeeeeeeeeey, I messed around and googled the recipe for Red Lobster's Shrimp Scampi recipe and I found it! I swear, Google is worth its weight in gold. lol. I googled the recipe and found soooooo many alternatives. You can actually go on to Red Lobster's website and get ALL of their recipes. Like FOR REAL! Try it! I promise!


Here is The Shrimp Scampi Recipe:
Serves 4

1 Pound Medium Shrimp, peeled and deveined
1 Tbsp Pure Olive Oil (not extra virgin)
2 Tbsp Finely Chopped Garlic (you may used pre-chopped from the produce section of your grocery store)
1½ Cups White Wine (a nice Pinot Grigio or Chardonnay will work well)
½ Fresh Lemon (juice only)
1 Tsp Italian Seasoning Blend
½ Cup Butter (softened)
1 Tbsp Fresh Parsley (chopped fine)
To taste Salt and Pepper
½ Cup Fresh Grated Parmesan Cheese (if desired as garnish)

1. Heat heavy bottom skillet and add olive oil, do not allow oil to smoke.
Add shrimp and cook until tender and no longer translucent
2. Remove shrimp from pan and reduce heat slightly.
Add garlic and cook 2-3 minutes.
Be careful not to brown garlic as this will produce a slightly bitter flavor.
When garlic is cooked, add white wine.
3. Squeeze juice from lemon in pan, and reduce wine by half.
After it is reduced, add Italian seasoning blend
4. Reduce heat to low, and slowly add butter, 1 Tbsp at a time. The butter should slowly melt into the sauce and create a nice creamy texture. If the pan is too hot the butter will separate
5. Once butter is fully incorporated, add shrimp back into sauce, add parsley, and season to taste with salt and pepper.
6. Serve with garnish of fresh cheese if desired. Scampi is great accompanied by fresh pasta

Here are some other great shrimp recipes:

Shrimp Salsa
1 cup Cooked Diced Shrimp
2 each Tomatoes, Diced
1 each Jalepeno, Small Diced
2 TBSP Red Onion, Diced
1 TBSP Cilantro, Chopped Fne
½ tsp Salt
Pinch Black Pepper

Shrimp Gumbo
Serves 10to12
Shrimp Gumbo Ingredients:
1-1/2 cups melted butter
1-1/2 cups all-purpose flour
2 cups chopped onions, cut into 3/8" pieces
1 cup chopped green peppers, cut into 3/8" pieces
1 cup chopped celery, cut into 3/8" pieces
1 lb. Andouille sausage, cut into 1/2" pieces
1/2 lb. Tasso smoked meat, cut into 1/2" pieces
1 tbsp. paprika
3 tbsp. "Emeril's Bayou Blast" seasoning
2 tsp. gumbo file, ground
1 tsp. ground Ancho pepper (optional for extra heat)
10 cups cold chicken stock or broth
2 tbsp. brown sugar
2 bay leaves
1/2 lb. shrimp, cleaned and peeled with tails removed
Salt and Pepper to taste
Shrimp Gumbo Preparation:
Combine the melted butter and flour in a large heavy pot, stirring constantly over media heat. Cook until the roux is a dark, chocolate brown color (about 20 to 25 minutes).
Add the chopped onions, green peppers, celery, Andouille sausage and Tasso smoked meat. Cook, stirring continuously, until the vegetables are very soft (about 8 to 10 minutes).
Add the paprika, the "Emeril's Bayou Blast" and the gumbo file. If you want a spicier dish, add the Ancho pepper. Cook for about 1-2 minutes.
Add the cold chicken stock or broth. Stir until the roux mixture and the broth are well combined.
Add the bay leaves and the brown sugar, bringing the mixture to a boil. Reduce the heat to medium low and cook uncovered, stirring occasionally, for about 1 to 1-1/2 hours.
Add shrimp to the soup approximately 15 to 20 minutes prior to serving (size of the shrimp will determine how long they need to cook). Add salt and pepper to taste.

Maple-Glazed Salmon and Shrimp
Serves 4
Fresh salmon and shrimp basted in a sweet maple cherry glaze.

4 ea. 5-6 oz. salmon fillet
24 ea. 26-30 count peeled shrimp
4 ea. bamboo skewers (soaked in water for 10-15 minutes)
Olive oil
Sea salt (to taste)
Black pepper (to taste)
1 C. dried cherry and maple glaze
Sweet Maple and Dried Cherry Glaze:
2 C. real maple syrup
3 Tbsp. soy sauce (light if available)
½ C. water
¼ C. chopped dried tart cherries
½ ea. fresh lemon
½ C. white sugar

Sweet Maple and Dried Cherry Glaze:
Combine syrup, soy sauce, water and cherries in small sauce pot over medium heat.
Squeeze juice from half lemon in mixture and stir well.
Once mixture is heated, begin adding ¼ cup of sugar and stir until complete dissolved. Taste glaze for sweetness. As different maple syrups will have different levels of sweetness, it might be necessary to add additional sugar.
Once glaze is sweet enough, remove from heat and refrigerate. When completely cool, cover and store chilled.
Use at room temperature as glaze for grilled fresh fish.

After soaking the skewers, slide 6 shrimp onto each skewer, leaving room on either end. Brush both sides with olive oil, and season with salt and pepper. Brush salmon with olive oil, and season with salt and pepper as well.
Place salmon on grill skin side up. Grill approximately 5 minutes, then carefully flip on grill. Baste with maple cherry glaze, and continue to cook approximately 5-10 more minutes.
When salmon has cooked approximately 5 minutes, place shrimp skewer on grill and cook 2-3 minutes per side, basting with maple cherry glaze once per side.
Place salmon on plate, top with shrimp skewer, and top with remaining maple cherry glaze. Garnish with fresh grilled asparagus.

Maui Luau Shrimp & Salmon
Serves 4
4 each 5–6 oz. skinned salmon fillet
24 each 26–30 count peeled shrimp
4 each Bamboo skewers (soaked in water for 10–15 minutes)
8 each Fresh pineapple half moons (super sweet variety)
Olive Oil
Salt and pepper to taste
Sweet chili sauce (choose your favorite brand, but make sure it is sweet)

Sweet chili sauce is usually found in the Asian specialties section of your local market. It should not be confused with the thicker tomato version of chili sauce

Brush both sides of salmon with olive oil and season with salt and pepper.
After soaking the skewers, slide 6 shrimp onto each skewer, leaving room on either end. Brush both sides with olive oil and season with salt and pepper.
Cut the fresh pineapple into slices approximately half inch in diameter and then cut in half. Brush both sides with olive oil.
On a medium heated grill, place the salmon flesh side down. Grill approximately 6–7 minutes per side or until the fish reaches 150 degrees.
Grill shrimp approximately 3–4 minutes per side or until 150 degrees.
Grill pineapple for 2–3 minutes per side or until there is good carmelization.
Brush all items generously with the sweet chili sauce.
To serve, place the pineapple at the top of each plate and crisscross. Top the pineapple with a scoop of your favorite rice. Crisscross the salmon and the shrimp skewer on top of the rice. Sprinkle with fresh parsley and serve with your favorite vegetable.

Wine Pairing:
A Riesling would be a great accompaniment to this entree. If you prefer a cocktail, a Pina Colada would be a nice match because its cool sweetness balances the spiciness of the dish.

Stay motivated!

"Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else tries to light that
fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly."

-Stephen R. Covey

I like this quote. It really encompasses what motivation is all about. It starts with self. We often times set out to do great things and really go at it hard in the very beginning and then we get to a point where the fire kind of dies out. We eventually reignite the flame, but it doesn't always stay at the same level. Why does this happen?

There could be several reasons that we get off track or lose that fire. It could be self, our circumstances, life, other people, work, weather, a myriad of reasons. But know that you always have back up. A generator. Extra help. We have God. No matter what we think may experience or how we get off course, we can always trust God to help us reignite the flame.

If you're like me, this is an area that I have to really pray about. I start off strong, highly motivated, then I reach an invisible brick wall. Its crazy.. lol.. You're desired results could be a new relationship, a car, a new house, having a baby, starting a new career, stating a new hobby, travelling, facing a fear, meeting new people, sticking to a diet or weight loss plan. I could be just about anything. It is easy to lost your momentum when you are living life day to day. You have to find ways to get your vision re-energized and remember your desired results.

Here are some good ways to stay motivated:
  1. Pray, pray, pray
  2. Write your vision and make it plain
  3. Keep a list of your desired results visible in various different locations
  4. Surround yourself with motivated people
  5. Create a dream/ motivation board to look at daily
  6. Try to find people that you know or celebrities that have already accomplished your goal
  7. Don't let an obstacle stand in your way
  8. Create a motivation playlist/cd that helps you remember your purpose
  9. Always think about your desired results

I hope this helps you a little. Believe it or not, this blog has truly, truly be a motivational tool for me. I have always been an advid writer and dreamer, but I easily get taken off course for so many reasons. But because I have set out to make this blog an extension of myself, I have handled it with excellence. I have tried to apply that to all the areas of my life. And guess what? I think it's working yall! lol ..

~Flyly motivated

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Busy in Purpose...

I was in a staff meeting today and I looked at the date. I was like, where has the month of February gone???! It seems like I was JUST sitting in New Year's service at church and now we are dern near celebrating St.Patrick's Day. This is crazy! And I hear God say, "Time flies when you are busy in purpose."

That totally caught me off guard, but that is what God wants us to do. We are to live each day on purpose and in purpose. Now, don't get me wrong there will be days where you wish tomorrow would just hurry up and come, but we have to make an effort to get all the life out of each day. Whether we know exactly what we want to be or where we want to go, we need to constantly move forward. If we fall, keep it moving. It we stumble, keep it moving. If we feel hesitant, keep it moving.

When we are busy in purpose, small things that get us off track have no room for center stage. They are merely moments for growth and learning, but they should only energize our purpose and propel us to the next realm of excellence. Now, I am a living witness that disappointment can get the best of a person. But I have come to realize they are nothing less than distraction. Some things are so trivial in retrospect. Just when you think you're doing so great, the enemy finds the simplest thing to get you off track. It is in this moment you pray for guidance.

Distractions, obstacles, and adversity are good signs that you are on a verge of a breakthrough or in a pivotal moment in your journey. Learn from them and keep moving towards the assigned mark. God said in His word that there would be ups and downs. He's already prepared us for such. He has also promised us peace and prosperity, so it all comes hand in hand.

So no matter how life may seems to be flying by, just stay busy in purpose and each day will count more than the day before.

~Fly Busy Body

Monday, February 16, 2009

God Knows the Bigger Picture

Often times, God reveals to us our purpose through snapshots and glimpses, and reveals it over time. In doing so, He wants us to know that there is a "bigger picture". The crazy thing is, we want to see more. But only time will reveal that to us.

In the meantime, we get caught up in obstacles and stumbling blocks along the way that begin to cloud our vision. We lose site of what God showed us. We can't look at our current snap shot and think it's the final picture, because it's not. Everything we experience in our lives is a part of our fabric. Whether these experiences are ones that we choose to forget or cherish forever, they make us who we are.

In our quest to find purpose and walk in it, don't focus too much on trying to figure out tomorrow until we have mastered today. I say this because we miss a lot of great opportunities to grow, love, and to become a better person.

Ultimately, God knows the bigger picture. So continue to cherish the "snap shots" of your destiny that God revelas and strive towards who you are to be!

~Fly Expectations

Sunday, February 15, 2009

Nas and Kelis: It's a Boy

Well, the preggers bug seems to be going around pretty swiftly (drink bottled water everyone! lol) ... Nas has been blogging to the world that he and Kelis are expecting their first child, a BOY! You know he is too hype. Kelis is probably already stirring a concoction of hot pink hair dye to color the poor little boy's This is going to be a mess. But they did it all in the confines of marriage, so it's a beautiful thing nonetheless

While this is their first child together, Nas has a 14-year-old daughter named Destiny with author and music executive Carmen Bryan. He did a pretty good job of not having a whole bunch of little ones running around.

Here is a snippet of his blog from the web

“I’m sure that y’all heard K is expecting. The Internet seems to be more excited
than I am. It’s crazy! I got too much to think about, and I didn’t wanna leave
all my fans out the loop,” the Queens MC wrote in a blog entry on Global Grind. “But I wanted to let ya’ll know from me personally that I’m having my first SON!!!!!”

~ Flyness and Blessings

Saturday, February 14, 2009

Happy V-Day: 10 Fun Ways to Say I Love You

Here's a cute article that I found....

Creative Valentine's Day Gifts
10 Fun Ways to Say I Love You
© Erica Arnold
Jan 6, 2009

Valentine's Day Gift Crafts

Coupon book: An oldy but a goody. Who can say how long the coupon book has been around, but it needs an upgrade. Gone are the days of the “take out the trash” coupon or “do the dishes” coupon. Now it’s time for “a back rub after a long day’s work” or “win the next disagreement.” No matter how nice or naughty the coupons they are sure to be greatly appreciated.

Love letters/poem: Send a love letter or poem from a famous author every day starting February 1, then on Valentine’s Day present an original love letter or poem. Use nice stationary and after Valentine’s Day get the pages bound together so it can be a keepsake.

Go somewhere fun like an ice skating rink or a great museum and then at the end of the night give a gift to commemorate the event. The gift can be something made or bought from a gift shop.

Make a scrapbook page with pictures of a special event or fun day from the past and frame it.
Valentine's Day Gifts that Last All Day

Cater to you: Set up the whole day to cater to the other person. TiVo or DVR their favorite shows, cook their favorite meals, run a bath and give them a massage. Be sure they don’t lift a finger for their special day.

Spa day: Buy bath salts, or milk bath, candles, massage oil, pedicure products, etc., from the drug store and set up a spa at home. Invite the lucky lady or guy over and pamper them.
Valentine's Day Gifts for Couples to Enjoy Together

Make chocolate candy together: An Occasional Chocolate has everything needed to make delectable chocolates similar to those found in stores at home for less. After the candy is made enjoy it together.

Take a couple’s cooking class: Local community colleges, culinary schools, and even some grocery stores have cooking classes. FYI, these classes fill up fast.

Give a nice bottle of alcohol and enjoy it that night over a great meal.

Weekend get-a-way to a bed and breakfast: Plan a “get-a-way” to a bed and breakfast. Bed and breakfasts offer a different experience than a hotel room and aren’t very far away. Many times they offer home cooked or gourmet meals and are located in areas where there are lots of things to do.

History of V-Day!

Every year we celebrate Valentine’s Day without knowing the true, ture history of it. Here is some research that I gathered about this lovely February 14th holiday…

Give love on this day ~!

~Fly Lover

Valentine's Day or Saint Valentine's Day is an occasion celebrated on February 14 by many people throughout the world. In the West, it is the traditional day on which lovers express their love for each other by sending Valentine's cards, presenting flowers, or offering confectionery. The holiday is named after two among the numerous Early Christian martyrs named Valentine. The day became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished.

The day is most closely associated with the mutual exchange of love notes in the form of "valentines." Modern Valentine symbols include the heart-shaped outline, doves, and the figure of the winged Cupid. Since the 19th century, handwritten notes have largely given way to mass-produced greeting cards. The sending of Valentines was a fashion in nineteenth-century Great Britain, and, in 1847, Esther Howland developed a successful business in her Worcester, Massachusetts home with hand-made Valentine cards based on British models. The popularity of Valentine cards in 19th-century America was a harbinger of the future commercialization of holidays in the United States.

The U.S. Greeting Card Association estimates that approximately one billion valentines are sent each year worldwide, making the day the second largest card-sending holiday of the year, behind Christmas. The association estimates that, in the US, men spend in average twice as much money as women

Legend has it that Valentine was a priest who served during third century Rome. There was an Emperor at that time by the name of Claudius II. Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those that were married. With this thought in mind he outlawed marriage for young men in hopes of building a stronger military base. Supposedly, Valentine, decided this decree just wasn't fair and chose to marry young couples secretly. When Emperor Claudius II found out about Valentine's actions he had him put to death. Another legend has it that Valentine was an imprisoned man who fell in love with his jailor's daughter. Before he was put to death he sent the first 'valentine' himself when he wrote her a letter and signed it 'Your Valentine', words still used on cards today.

Perhaps we'll never know the true identity and story behind the man named St. Valentine, but this much is for sure...February has been the month to celebrate love for a long time, dating clear back to the Middle Ages. In fact, Valentines ranks second only to Christmas in number of greeting cards sent.

Another valentine gentleman you may be wondering about is Cupid (Latin cupido, "desire"). In Roman mythology Cupid is the son of Venus, goddess of love. His counterpart in Greek mythology is Eros, god of love. Cupid is often said to be a mischievous boy who goes around wounding both gods and humans with his arrows, causing them to fall in love.

Friday, February 13, 2009

Sometimes I Wish I Could See What He Sees

Have you have wondered why God loves us so much? What He wants us to do? What He sees for our future? Well, I have. Often times I sit back and wonder, "Lord, what is it that you see in me?". I'm not perfect, I don't always do what I should, I don't know if I am where I want you to be. All of these thoughts go through my mind. But just as clear as day, God says, " I see Me in you." Even when you think you're not doing what you should, or who I want you to be, it's ok. You have been created in my image. So when I see you, I see Me.

No matter how life seems to take you off course or through ups and downs, God says, look for me. Even when you have had the worst day ever. God says, "Look for me". When you're let down, when you're heart is broken, when you don't know what to do, God says, "Look for me". He says, " I am the way, the truth ,and the light. "

I really wasn't going to post anything today because I was feeling a little less than fabulous, but somehow, I always find my healing through ministering to other people. Then I log off and read it myself. lol. I know, I know, kinda silly. But that's how God is. He created us, let us have free will in the earth, and He left it up to us to find our way back. That's how good God is. He knows that we may fall short, He knows that we may have disappointing moments, but He reminds us, that He's in charge.

So, in my "less than fab" state, I still know that ultimately God has the first and the last say in any situation. Nothing is ever too big or too small for Him. Take it to the altar and leave it there.

~Flyness and Blessings...

Thursday, February 12, 2009

Definition of love?

There are so many definitions of love, that we could probably have a separate dictionary for it. I think love has different definitions for different people. To me, love is unconditional, relentless, sometimes renders you powerless, encompassing and empowering at the same time, it transcends you to the heavenlies when its pure, it makes you look into someone eyes and know that everything is okay, its an unspoken language that is shared between kindred spirits and souls, a language that only 2 hearts understand, a longing to make everything ok, one's ability to make another feel appreciated. Love is when you're gone for days on end, and when you return, it never feels like you were ever gone. To love is to feel right at home in another person's soul. It's a spiritual longing to make someone else whole. Above all, to feel loved, is to feel heaven on earth.

Above all, to feel loved, is to feel heaven on earth.

The bible says love is in 1 Corinthians 13:4-13

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is
not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps
no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will
cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge,
it will pass away.
For we know in part and we prophesy in part,
but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears.
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I
reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.
Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to
face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the
greatest of these is love."

Sonnet XLIII, from the Portuguese. Elizabeth Barrett Browning - 1806-1861

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. I love thee to the depth and breadth and height My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight For the ends of Being and ideal Grace. I love thee to the level of everyday's Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light. I love thee freely, as men strive for Right; I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise. I love thee with the passion put to use In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith. I love thee with a love I seemed to lose With my lost saints, -I love thee with the breath, Smiles, tears, of all my life! - and, if God choose, I shall but love thee better after death.

No matter what definition, poem, song, story, movie, or novel that has been written, love is determined by how you use it and how it uses you... Man, love is something else.... Ok, your turn.... What is love?

~ Loving Flyness

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

He heals me through our Chocolate High

India.Arie.... Testimony Vol. 2: Love & Politics

Maaaaaan, i'm high. (Not like that you herb loving>I'm talking about my favorite songs on India Arie's new CD. I can't stop listening to Chocolate High and He Heals me.

In Chocolate High, she's featuring her former boo, Musiq, and they are equating love with being high on sweetness. It is beautiful and cute at the same time. I just love it. It has a sense of sensuality just the same. It is evident that India has found love again, or is pretty darn close to it.

Now, "He Heals Me", has to be one of the most profound songs I've heard in a while. She truly, truly captured what I am experiencing and what I have experienced. In this song, she is singing to a guy that is both her friend and her lover. He loves her for who she truly is, regardless of her mistake, secrets, and flaws. Homegirl WOOOOOOOOOOORKED it on this song. I bought the CD last night and fell asleep to it, so I was determined to listen to it today. I messed around and put it in on the way to work and I was in pure tears by the time I hit I-20. This song, this song, this song...... it is so beautiful. Truly. Makes you remember the 1st time you fell for that unexpected lover. What I loved about this song is that this man she sings about is someone who added to her life, who she was to be. This was not sexual, but spiritual. She says he's healed her insides. He listens to her music, and listens to her heart. Ohhh man! I'm bout to tear up again. She finally says she doesn't care whether he's there for a season, a lifetime, forever or just a year, she's just enjoying the moment that she is in.He's a beautiful man, but most of all, a beautiful friend! You have to go listen, download, buy, this song! For real!

I think the beauty of this song, is the journey of love, not just the destination. All the steps that lead to it. We often miss the journey, by being too focused on what's ahead. We have to take the time to look beside us to capture the person that we are sharing it with. Love is a beautiful thing. And it's nothing like beautiful that captures all these emotions...
Oh, the rest of the CD is pretty good too. But honestly, I love this song and the interludes the

I think I'm ready to embrace my healing, I hope he knows it...... iPod remains on repeat...

~Music Makes Me Flyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Writing your vision down ...and waiting for it

" Faith isn't built on looking at reality, but looking beyond it. "~ Me

Many times in life, there comes a point where we seem to believe for things that don't seem to be happening as fast as we like. I know I am guilty of it. Me and my girlfriends spend a great part of our lives on who our husbands will be, where God wants to take us, are we in the right career, all of that rhetoric. ( But mostly who we are to I sit back and I am like, Lord, there has to be a better way. And of course, that age old book does it every time, the Bible. The answers are there as plain as day.

One of my favorite, little known, books of the bible is Habakkuk. There are 2 powerful scriptures that I live by concerning writing and waiting. Now in, Habakkuk 2:22 , the Lord says, "write the vision and engrave it so plainly upon tablets that everyone who passes may [be able to] read [it easily and quickly] as he hastens by”. This is a simple, yet powerful scripture. Instead of me worrying myself to death about what the future holds or if I get what I want out of life, I write all my supplications down. *Supplication is a humble request* It's like having a witness.When you go to God with the same issues, over & over, that's really for your own good. He already knows what you have need of. A written supplication allows you to write these desires to God and leave them there. Every action following that should mirror and answered prayer. It's like calling your home girl to pick up at 8pm, but then you call your sister to come and your aunt to come by too just in case. It's saying to God that you simply don't trust His will for your life. We have to be ever so careful to understand God's timing.

Now, faith is the substance of things hoped for ,the evidence of things not seen (Hebrews 11:1) .. There are soooooo many ways to break this scripture down, but I just want to focus on "hope" right now. Hope is defined as, "the general feeling that some desire will be fulfilled." BAM! There it is ..... you have to feel it, you have to know it, you have to understand it! Hope is the general feeeeeeeling that you're gonna get that car, that man, that house, that raise, that family member saved, that financial breakthrough, that promotion, that healing. All of that. You can't look at your own track record, you have to look at God's. He promised to never leave you nor forsake you. So why would he stop now?

The second powerful part of this chapter is found in Habakkuk 2:3, "For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry. Lord!!!! The revelation is right there. Written 1,000s of years ago. God knew that the vision would tarry. He wanted us to be prepared for a bit of a delay. He knew then that we would look at a situation and think that it was over, but guess what, all the while, he was working something out for our behalf. And guess what, we have to WAIT! Until the END! You know that is not easy, but it will speak! That's the big "Taaa Daaah". The whole reason for the vision being written down is the grand finale, the "Taaaa Daaahh".. lol.

So I say to you today, no matter how big or small your supplication is, don't waiver, don't faint, don't worry. He can do it all. I know firsthand that waiting is a beast. Just because they say patience is a virtue, doesn't mean it is easy. But guess what? It has some of the greatest rewards.

Quick story: You know I always find a way to apply shopping to life, but it's like me and Target (which you know I am obsessed with). Every Christmas, Target puts out these gorgeous holiday pieces and home decor items. Of course they start out at like 59.99 and up. So, the anxious fly girl in me is like, "Girl, just buy it, you have the money", and the patient fly girl in me is like, "Girl, if you wait, you can have it all." And guess what, as risky as it is, I wait. With the risk of all the good stuff gone, I wait. So Christmas is now gone and everyone has picked through their favorite pieces and the prices have been slashed 75-90% off. Guess what God did for me? He gave me the desires of my heart! EVERY SINGLE ITEM I WANTED, I GOT! I had to go to to a few different locations (about 15!!, but I eventually got all my desires. Now, this may seem superficial, but God spoke to me and said, "If you trust me in these little things, there is nothing you cannot have.".

Wheeeeeew! I am tired. I didn't even realize I had typed so much, but God told me someone had to hear this. As I am writing , I am truly ministering to myself. I had to share this revelation, because I don't know who I may be touching right now. Be blessed and don't stop dreaming. Faith isn't built on looking at reality, but looking beyond it.

~In Fly Patience

Monday, February 9, 2009

Chris Brown.... What an idiot!

Well, as you all have heard by now, our favorite little lovebird has been charged with battery. I really don't have the time to go down the laundry list of better things he could have been doing with his life and career other than beating a chick up. It probably was Rhianna. I mean, what are the odds of neither one of them being at the Grammy's and her being released from the hospital. Young love and wild sex don't always mix well. And when folks start slinging STDs, you truly have made for TV drama! I will say this, it is indeed a mess! But as forgiving as Hollywood and women are, he might even make more money. That's the sick thing about show biz... whatev!
~2 Fly

Chris turning himself in...

Sunday, February 8, 2009

Movie Review : He's Just Not That Into You

So, I went on and saw the movie, He's Just Not That Into You. Ok, my mindset going into this was rather pessimistic. Being that I am dealing with my own varied relationship "issues", the last thing I wanted to hear was that he wasn't that into me. So you know my lips were poked out and eyes were rolling as I was purchasing my tickets.

I think overall, the movie was a thoughtful effort. The feel of the film was very warm, the characters were believable, and you actually felt the emotions of the characters. So, without going through all the characters' names and roles I will point of some great thought evoking moments.

The main character who narrated the film was a sweet and endearing. She represented women across America who earnestly wanted love, but pushed it away by wanting it too much. She went through the whole movie "doing the most". But I think it was necessary to exaggerate her efforts to show how women can push great things away by thinking too much and over analyzing a man's every move. Love eventually found her when she wasn't looking or trying.

There was a married couple that struggled with trust and honesty. They married immediately out of college because they had been "dating forever" and the guy felt like it would be "right" to marry her. Out of this scenario, I learned that love is important, but you truly have to have a solid foundation. Bigger than being with someone "forever". Many times you know in the first encounters if you can be with a person forever (or just a long The ups and downs they experienced in their relationship were "workable" but they decided that their problems were greater than the love they built.

There was another character who met dudes online and lead a life full of heartache. She constantly wanted to find love and wasn't afraid to use any method of technology to find him. She provided a bit of humor for the film. There was a guy who was truly into this girl that was basically using him for security, but she secretly was looking for "true love" and chose to walk away.

Ok, I said I wasn't going to go through all of that. Basically, the film taught me that love is not something that can be manipulated or coerced. It must be natural. The only way God would have it. We as women have to understand how men operate and the men have to understand us just same. We are the same in being, but equipped with different emotions and feelings. Every time you say woMAN, you are saying MAN. We came from Adam's rib, so it's natural to always seek to understand a man and be with just one. But in our quest for love, we have to come to the conclusion that "what is to be, is to be" and there is nothing that we can do about it.

Keep loving with ease and comfort. With God, it is possible. If you haven't found it, you will. If you have, cherish and protect it.

~Love and Flyness
Here's the trailer.....

Saturday, February 7, 2009

Jamie Foxx does it to me....

Ok, I can't stop listening to Jamie Foxx's album .... Lord have mercy... between making me dance like a stripper to Blame It, and slow dancing to Slow, Overdose, and Rainman... lol . This CD has me acting all kinda ways.

Just go pick it up.!

~Jammin' Flyly!


Blame It

Friday, February 6, 2009

Preggers Alert!!!

Yea, I'm late at this point, but I would be remiss if I didn't comment on all these pregnant folk! lol. Let's see, we have:

Erykah Badu and Jay Electronica
Baby Girl: Mars Merkaba
Born: February 1, 2009

Erykah loooooooooves her some rappers huh? lol.. She has two children from previous relationships named Seven Sirius (with Outkast's Andre 3000) and Puma Rose Sabti (with rapper the D.O.C.).

Now, if you're like me, you are wondering about this little one' s name, so I had to go ahead and google it.. lol... Merkaba, also spelled Merkabah, is the divine light vehicle allegedly used by ascended masters to connect with and reach those in tune with the higher realms. "Mer" means Light. "Ka" means Spirit. "Ba" means Body. Mer-Ka-Ba means the spirit/body surrounded by counter-rotating fields of light, (wheels within wheels), spirals of energy as in DNA, which transports spirit/body from one dimension to another. ( Leave it to Erykah to be EXTRA, ETRA deep.

Tisha Campbell- Martin and Duane Martin
2 months Pregnant

Tisha is now pregnant with her second child. Despite all the rumors of Duane being gay and them splitting, they are still standing strong! They have been married for 13 years and they have son, Xen, 8. They are hoping for a girl. And according to BFF Tichina Arnold, Tisha wants to name her Derek ( Not dealing with that... lol)

Bobby Brown and Alicia Etheridge
4 Months Pregnant

Okay, now I am a champion of Black Love and all that good stuff, but lord, another Bobby Brown seed? can we really take that? lol... Let me stop. Bobby and longtime friend/boo/whatever are expecting his 5th, and her 1st.

So, lets do a roll call of the wonderful Browns shall we? ...

- Landon (22) with Melika Williams;

- LaPrincia(19) and Bobby Brown Jr. with Kim Ward

- Bobbi Kristina (15) with ex-wife Whitney Houston.

Good luck with the whole providing for them thing Bobby...

~Fly Celebration... .

Look for the bad.... to love the good

Now this may seem like a pessimistic way viewing love, but it's probably the best way. You know the saying that a leopard can't grow new spots? (well, its something like that) That's pretty much how we are as people. Most of the negative attributes and experiences that we possess are ours for the keeping. Our upbringing, our ideologies, our path, our purpose, our neurotic behaviors, all of that. They won't change. Like growing up a certain way, a lifelong visibly flaw, a character glitch, its part of our fabric. That's the thing with relationships. We bring all of these things to the table as counterparts in a relationship. We identify and embrace those things that we may not be familiar with in order to love unconditionally.

When we meet someone and get to know who they really are, the bad always jumps out. Whether they grew up in a home that wasn't perfect (not that this is totally bad), or they have a speech impediment, or they have certain biases. Whatever the case may be, their "bad" traits are things you need to identify early. I can remember my relationships in the past and during the "get to know you" part, I soaked up all the things my mate told me. The good, the bad, and the otherwise. When I feel in love (with my now ex), there things that I couldn't relate to or understand, but I was intrigued to find out more. When I took the limits off, love flourished like no other. Now, on the other hand, there were guys that had issues that I simply couldn't overlook like chronic drinking and smoking, terrible cursing habits, and no real relationship with God. There are just somethings that I can't compromise. When you meet someone, you can't go into it with the intentions of trying to change them, you have to learn to love them as a whole.

As we identify these things in a person that we don't necessarily like, we need to ask ourselves, "Can I live with this?". If we can honestly say that we can deal with the "bad" we probably may be on our way to finding true love. And if not love, it will truly make us a better person. Loving flaws and all......

~Fly Love

Thursday, February 5, 2009

I'm baaaaaaaack!

Well ladies and gents, I am back from my conference. There has been soooooo much going on~! I swear. Between this back and forth debate about the stimulus package, all these celebrities popping up preggers or popping them out, Pre-Grammys events, me and my boos... so much going on... lol.

About to jump right back in....

~Back in Flyness