Monday, February 22, 2010

Good People... Good Living...

I just wanted to take a moment to reflect on how blessed I am for the people in my life. From my parents, my little sisters, my BFFs, my "boo", my new found friends, and even down to the industry folks that I've become acquainted with. God has truly placed some wonderful people in my path that are getting me closer to who I am truly supposed to be.



I look back on my childhood and how my parents have molded me to who I have become by keeping me saturated in the Word, surrounded by positive people, and giving me an example of what marriage should fundamentally be about. While life has never been perfect, it has been perfectly suited for me. For who I was to become. God doesn't make mistakes, nor does He allow things that you cannot handle. I just wanted to take a moment to thank Him for the best parents for me. I don't think I would fit in anywhere else. lol..

My little sisters have motivated me to be the best I can be. And when I felt like I wasn't, they always reminded me that I was their hero and could do no wrong. That has meant the world to me.



My BFFs have inspired me through their victories and trials. Its so crazy how I'm not the "girlfriend" type, where I'm not interested in having a whole bunch of friends, but have ended up with some true ride or die chicks as my "girls". God has even used them to get messages to me that I refused to receive from anywhere else. Crazy how God connects you to people.


Ahhhhhh... *pause* the boo.... another reason why I've been kinda, sorta ghost. lol. He's the best. And of course not in Atlanta :O( Not to tell ALL my business. I know he's heaven sent. Everything I thought I couldn't find, he is. Everything I wanted to hear, he says. Everything I think I'm not, he knows I am. It's so amazing.... this man... I don't know if he's my forever or my right now, but there is simply no other place I'd rather be, than in this very moment. (ok, let me stop before I tell all my lil business)




Even down to my new friends, people from college that I'm cool with now, and business associates. I am so grateful for their roles in my life. The laughter, the memories, the game nites, the random road trips, the special events, the list goes on.




I'm saying all this to say that we must surround ourselves with like minded people and like purpose people. As I look back over my life, more time was spent with people that took me away from my purpose than those that pushed me closer to it. As I continuously did spring cleaning, I realized the hand full of folks left in my life were all I needed and as life progressed, God placed new people in my life.



It's like making your acceptance speech for an Oscar and looking out in the audience and seeing the only people that matter, the ones who have help mold you, the ones that have pushed you towards your intended goal, the ones that loved you through all your ups and downs. I'm having one of those moments now. I am SO grateful for all the people in my life, that I merely tear up at the thought of any one of them.


Never miss an opportunity to tell those in your life that you love them and that you appreciate them. Be grateful for those in your life and continuously sow into their lives. Make an effort to call them often just to say, "hey". Trust me, it makes all the difference in the world.

Ok, that's all ... I am so full right now...

~Mel

Get out there and live.....




So, yes, I have been a little ghost lately. I know, I know... the boo called me last night and totally told me I need to get it together. (nothing like a man that motivates you.. honey, that's another post.. lol). But, anyway, I have been LIVING, do you hear me? When 2010 hit, I told my mom I believe God was about to have me traveling a great deal so I needed some new luggage. Thinking nothing of it, I was living life as usual, by going to Target. lol. I walk in, and all the luggage I could ever need was dirt cheap. Well, that was only the beginning. In a previous post I told you about the money that came in the mail right? Well, the very next day, I got a call about going to Mardi Gras. And you know I went! Had the time of my life.



I say all of that to say that you can't expect life to wait on you, you have to get MOVING. Start living NOW, and the rest will come together. Place what you want in the atmosphere and watch it start coming to you. Start believing against all doubts that this is indeed your season and watch the doors that will start opening. Start seeing yourself in the places you want to be and watch trips open up with your name on them.



So, speaking of trips. While I was in New Orleans having a sober good time, I got 3 calls for 3 more trips. One to Essence, one to Vegas, and one to New York. And guess what? I'm going to all 3. I tell you, God is something else. I am not going to ponder how they will all come together or whether I should go, I am going to continue to watch God put all these puzzle pieces together. I merely placed the word "travel" into the atmosphere and it began to activate so much in my life. I am so grateful .




Last year this time, I was trying to figure out what God wanted me to do, where He wanted me to go and questioning my place in life. The moment I let go all of those questions, doubts, and fears, the floodgates of heaven began to open up. In the meantime, I have been sowing into the life of others. Whether it be love, my time, a listening ear, money, or even just a smile. I have allowed God to use me and He has begun to reward me tremendously. And it's only the beginning.




I urge you today to take down your guard and inner prohibitions and began to dream. Regardless of money, time, and the people involved. God will put all that together. Just put what you want "out there" and watch them begin to come to pass. I am certainly seeing God move mightily....




~Mel

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

If the birds are cool, so am I .....


Matthew 6:25

For this reason I say to you, do not be worried about your life,
as to what you will eat or what you will drink; nor for your body,
as to what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing?
"Look at the birds of the air, that they do not sow, nor reap nor gather into barns,
and yet your heavenly Father feeds them.
Are you not worth much more than they?
And who of you by being worried can add a single hour to to his life?


This happens to be one of my favorite scriptures. Well, one of hundreds. lol. But really. Read it again. It makes so much sense. It's like God is saying, "Snap out of it! I got this!" And truth to the matter He does.

So many times, we find ourselves wrecking our brains over financial solutions, a job, our bills, what you are going to eat, where we are going to live, and the list goes on. Going back to the Lord's word, He has commanded us to NOT worry. Go back to the scripture, "Look at the birds". I actually did that one day. They live their lives so carefree. Now, indeed we cannot not equate a bird's life to that of a human,but in perspective to surviving and living day to day by faith, we surely can.

If God can take care of a bird, can He not do that for you? Did God not grant us dominion over all animals and things in His kingdom? So if a bird is "straight" (ok), why wouldn't His good and faithful servant be?

God allows us to go through life relying upon Him and trusting him in every aspect and that is by design. He wants us to know that no matter what need we have, we have already been provided for. He says it plain, "worrying cannot add a single hour to our life", we only lose those moments. Time is such a precious commodity these days that we dare not value each one.

I look at my own life and Im amazed at the moments when I took my hands off the wheel and let God have total control. I got to my intended destination almost immediately. Man, the God we serve is something else. We get so caught up in the way we want things done and the methods we're accustomed to that we dont see how he's working it out and sometimes its already done.


At this point in my life, I have not only gotten from behind the wheel, I have moved to the very
back seat of the car of my life. I have let God have the whole front of the car.. lol. I have seen God move more miraculously on my behalf than ever before and its all because I have surrendered. I look at my accounts, my desires, my needs, and I have more than I have had in a very long time. God is too good.


In essence, don't stress. Don't worry. Don't be dismayed. He is working it out. Even as I type and as you read. Stand strong on the belief that if the birds are cool, so are you. Fly freely knowing that you can soar above anything that enemy may throw your way.


Flying above worries, pains, and disappointments,


~Mel

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Giving your way to victory




Well, many of you all that have been following me know about what I do with the grants and how I have pretty much been SOLELY walking by faith. Looks like I have some more praise reports to give. So, at the beginning of the year, I usually participate with the church and some of my closest friends in the Daniel's fast, where I give up meat, sweet drinks, junk food, etc. (look through older post for the full explanation). But in addition to that, I usually give my First Fruit offering.


This is where believers give an offering in addition to their tithes. For instance, if you make $1,000 in your first check of the year, you would give the whole thing or commit to doing so. You can break it up in installments or find a way to equal that amount, and pay your tithes of $100.


Here is a little background about it without giving you a FULL sermon.. lol. I got some notes from the lovely Pastor Paula White:

"Whatever you do with first fruit governs the rest and sets the pattern or
promise to come for the rest of whatever you establish. Whenever something is a
first, God lays claim to it because God sees the first thing as representing
what comes after . The principle is = God sees according to how the first things
are treated. When you honor God in obedience by presenting to Him all first
things, His presence covers and blesses the rest, sanctifies it… The law of
first things is the “giving over” (or devotion) as required, of first born,
first fruit… all things. They are an act of worship (or offering) in faith and
they prove the position in which the giver holds God and is held by God… All
privileges are released through receiving and believing His word. The law of
first things first has a fundamental impact on your life. First fruits is a
promise to come"


Following are all the scriptural references to "First Fruit".
  • That thou shalt take of the first of all the fruit of the earth, which thou shalt bring of thy land that the LORD thy God giveth thee, and shalt put [it] in a basket, and shalt go unto the place which the LORD thy God shall choose to place his name there. (Deuteronomy 26:2)

  • For the earth bringeth forth fruit of herself; first the blade, then the ear, after that the full corn in the ear. (Mark 4:28)

  • Thou shalt not delay [to offer] the first of thy ripe fruits, and of thy liquors: the firstborn of thy sons shalt thou give unto me. (Exodus 22:29)

  • For if the firstfruit be holy, the lump is also holy: and if the root be holy, so are the branches. (Romans 11:16)


So having knowledge of what "First Fruit" is and of what doors it may open, I knew that I had to give my way into the next dimension. My dream board and list of "wants" are so extensive, that I need God to move quickly on my behalf. With that being the case, I knew that I must sow a seed into the kingdom in order to be blessed. When I did, the floodgates of heaven's prosperity have truly opened.


Being that my father plays dual roles as my spiritual father and my biological father, I often have to make the distinction between the two. On this particular day, I heard it clear, "Sow unto the man of God". I'm like, "God, give the money to Dad?". He said, "No, give it to Apostle Mitchell". So I did. When I came to my father with my seed, he immediately began to praise God. He placed it in a bowl and said as the seed was placed into the earthly realm, God was going to recognize it as going in to the spiritual ground. He prayed a prayer of release, favor, and uncommon turn around . I literally felt a release in the atmosphere. He made me touch and agree with my mother that we would never live in lack again and that God was about to move in a mighty way on our behalf. Let me tell you, he did. Immediately.


As we were done praying, my mom was going through her monthly routine of paying bills and budgeting for the month. She went to pay the taxes for the house and they had already been paid and there was a zero balance. Come to find out, the taxes (that was well in the thousands) had been taken care of and she did not have to worry about them. Now, this was a DIRECT effect of the first fruit offering. My mom had been waiting to see if they had been paid and kept saying, "Lord I am going to trust you." Even when things got low and didn't look like they were going to come together, she held on to that belief.


For me, I saw God move in a mighty way. I had been trying to look for luggage for months because I kept hearing God saying I was going to be traveling soon. So one random day in a Target that I rarely go into, I found Swiss Gear luggage for 24.99 and 39.99. Marked done from 109.99 and 159.99. Did you hear me? Luggage that would have totaled almost $300 for under $100? It gets better. I went out with one of my guy friends to dinner and he was down most of the night about his finances, so God told me to treat him (which is CLEARLY a sacrifice because I too am on a budget). So I was obedient. The whole night, the restaurant service was super slow. So, I didn't act a fool and complain, I simply summoned the manager. Before I could complain, she said, you know what, I am going to take care of your bill, just pay for the fries and have a good evening. I almost fell out of my chair. My boy just began to shake his head in disbelief. God moved in even that small way. Then, this morning, I got a call from one of my cousins from church that I hadn't spoken to in a while. She said God told her to send me some money and she was calling for my address. I started not to even answer the phone. But honey, I did, and God moved.


I am just at a lost for words with God's favor. Not even because I gave money, but because He has entrusted me with such gifts and saw my true heart. Because my heart was pure in giving and never wavering, God blessed me accordingly. I am just so encouraged. As soon as I start to fret over something, I feel an immediate calm come over me, I cant do a thing but praise. He has been so, so good.


Today, I challenge you to sow your first fruits. Whether it be into a church and/or a man(or woman) of God. One thing I've learned is that you can't beat God in giving. At all. He makes it His priority to make sure we are taken care of. All our wants, needs, and desires are fulfilled in His will and way. We need only be obedient when we hear His voice and read His words.


I can't tell you enough how good God is. I only shared a few testimonies, but we would be here all day if I went down the entire list. I am still in awe. The luggage, the dinner, the phone call, I know it is just the beginning. I know many of you all are like me, constantly sowing, believing God, doing what you think/know is right, and feel like he has forgotten, He hasn't.


If you truly want to get His attention, do something to capture Him. Like me, my finances is an area where I can truly use some overflow, so to sow my first set of money from 2010, was heavy. But let me tell you, when I start doing God's math, my calculator went haywire. I can never be as good to Him as He is to me. Same with you. Sow your seed in your place of need today and watch God bless your roots, branches, and fruits.


Sowing today for my tomorrow,


~Mel




Moving Forward, No Matter What



No matter what you have faced today, declare that you will move forward. This is not saying that you will not face adversity, pain, an argument, or a disagreement. This is merely saying that no matter what comes your way, you are going to make a commitment to yourself to not dwell in those moments. It is in the moment of adversity that God can rise you up stronger than before. There is nothing that you cannot face with God on your side.


Know that life will not be perfect, but God has a perfect will for our lives. In saying that, I am merely stressing the importance of relying on God. We must seek Him daily to be renewed in strength and in understanding. The same God that delivered you before, will do it again.


We should practice moving forward in even the smallest things so it will become habit, a way of life, then our character. You will truly feel triumphant when you look at the journey God has brought you along. It is awesome to see God's hand over our lives.


Don't ever think that a situation you are facing is bigger than the God in you. He has placed all the abilities you will need to overcome the mountains that you must climb. Keep moving swiftly towards the promises that He has laid before you.


Pressing ahead, moving forward, not looking back,


~Mel



Moving Forward Quotes:

If we are to go forward, we must go back and rediscover those precious values - that all reality hinges on moral foundations and that all reality has spiritual control. Martin Luther King, Jr.


I hope to stand firm enough to not go backward, and yet not go forward fast enough to wreck the country's cause. Abraham Lincoln


It is for us to pray not for tasks equal to our powers, but for powers equal to our tasks, to go forward with a great desire forever beating at the door of our hearts as we travel toward our distant goal. Helen Keller


If everyone is moving forward together, then success takes care of itself. Henry Ford



Song of the Day: Moving Forward by Israel Houghton



Monday, February 8, 2010

It's Too Soon....

Have you ever liked someone so quickly... that you questioned how you feel about him? Well..... I think I'm kinda there right now. As I'm sorting out these emotions, I had this song sent to me, and yeah, they truly personify all that I am experiencing....

Its Too Soon by Eric Roberson

Ooohh
Really can't explain girl the way I feel, nooo
All I know is all I want you to be near, yeahhh
I know that its due, but please be patient I'm learning you
and all I want is you too learn me too
(Chorus)So girl when I say (say)
say girl lets take our time( time)
Understand girl that I'm (that I'm)
I'm not offering game (game)
Hopefully girl in time (time)
how u and i deal with change (change)
Its soon too say i love u(3x)

I can say it too make your heart feel good, oooo
But its best that we are both understood
yeahhhh
Its important that I'm the same way for you right down the line
And that you see is what I want to shine
(Chorus)
So girl when I say (say)
say girl lets take our time( time)
Understand girl that I'm (that I'm)
I'm not offering game (game)
Hopefully girl in time (time)
how u and i deal with change (change)
Its soon too say i love u(3x)

Theres so much I want to sayyyy
so much I feel inside
I just want it to be right, so lets take our time
to hopefully forever
(Chorus 2x)So girl when I say (say)
say girl lets take our time( time)
Understand girl that I'm (that I'm)
I'm not offering game (game)
Hopefully girl in time (time)
how u and i deal with change (change)
Its soon too say i love u(3x)

Sunday, February 7, 2010

Year of The Comeback, The Underdog, and Victory


I am still screaming from watching the game. I am so inspired from this team's victory tonight. Not so much from just their winning the Super Bowl, but the vindication of their city, brought hope to a people that have endured so much, and achieved the 1st ever win for their franchise.


Its amazing to me how so many things in life parallel our relationship with God and what He is doing. I was watching the game, thinking about how Katrina ravished the city of New Orleans, how so many people were counting the Saints out, how Dree Brees was once rejected in the the league, and how the Colts seemed to have the game "in the bag". Things are just never what they seem. Reality is only a reflection of our perception..........

God can redeem you from your lowest point to the highest point for all to see. This is what happened during the Super Bowl. I am so encouraged... more good news to come...



Article:http://www.espnstar.com/us-sports/nfl/news/detail/item393590/New-Orleans-Saints-win-Super-Bowl/New Orleans Saints defeated the Indianapolis Colts 31-17 at Miami's SunLife Stadium. Drew Brees won MVP.


They made the most of their first Super Bowl appearance in their 42-year history of the franchise.


The NFC-champion Saints came from 10-0 down at the end of the first quarter - equalling the largest deficit overturned to win a Super Bowl - and still trailed by a point at 16-17 heading into the fourth before dominating the final period to deny Indianapolis quarterback Peyton Manning and his side a second Super Bowl victory in four years.


It was an emotional occasion for the city of New Orleans, less than five years after it bore the brunt of Hurricane Katrina, as a series of bold calls from head coach Sean Payton helped them claim the title.

The Colts had gone into a 10-0 lead thanks to a Matt Stover field goal and Manning's 19-yard touchdown pass into the end zone for 23-year-old, second-year wide receiver Pierre Garcon, Stover returning to kick the extra point.

The second quarter saw a more assertive Saints display as they outgained the Colts by 143 yards to 15, yet only came away with two Garrett Hartley field goals to show for their dominance and went in 10-6 down at half-time.



The Saints took the lead for the first time in the game when quarterback Drew Brees threw his first touchdown pass, running back Pierre Thomas making the reception and jinking 20 yards into the end zone behind some excellent blocking. Hartley kicked the extra point to put New Orleans into a 13-10 lead.

The Colts reacted by running the ball, with Joseph Addai collecting the hand-off from Manning four yards out and side-stepping his way into the end zone before Stover added a point as Indianapolis regained the lead at 17-13.



Hartley's 47-yard field goal with 2:06 remaining in the quarter made him the first kicker ever to land three goals from 40 yards or more in the Super Bowl and left the Saints a point behind, setting up a perfectly poised last 15 minutes.



The Colts suffered a setback at the end of the first drive of the fourth quarter when Stover missed a field goal attempt from 51 yards and the Saints took advantage on the next possession as Brees sent a short pass right for Jeremy Shockey.



Shockey had been injured when his former team New York Giants won the Super Bowl against New England Patriots two years ago but he was front and centre to collect Brees' pass and the Saints opted to go for two extra points rather than one from a kick.



The plan looked to have backfired when Brees' pass to Lance Moore was ruled incomplete but Payton challenged the decision and was it overturned on review to give his side a 24-17 lead with 5:46 left on the clock. The catch also saw MVP Brees equal Tom Brady's Super Bowl record of 32
completions.


The Colts' comeback was derailed with 3:24 left when, having advanced to the New Orleans 31-yard line, Manning's pass intended for wide receiver Reggie Wayne was picked off by Tracey Porter.

The defensive back raced 74 yards back upfield for an interception touchdown and, with Hartley landing the extra point, the Saints were 31-17 up.
Back came the Colts for one last throw of the dice but as they camped on the New Orleans goal-line, Garcon was penalised for pass interference inside the end zone and Manning was forced back 10 yards to the 13.



The Colts quarterback tried again and with less than a minute left on the clock Indianapolis were on the five-yard line on fourth down. Manning threw again into the end zone and again looking for Wayne, but the pass was incomplete and the game was effectively over.

The Saints ate up the clock and Brees, his team-mates and the city of New Orleans began an impromptu Mardi Gras in Miami.

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

Pain is not to hurt, but to sustain.......





Well, how do I start this one off? I guess I will get right into it. I was talking to one of my guy friends about relationships and how our past "loves" have taken us through the emotional wringer. When I hung up the phone and got by myself I begin to think about all the attempts at love and all that the relationships that I just KNEW would lead to true bliss. But honey, I ended up being hurt just the same.




The interesting thing God began to show me was that that very pain acted as a cocoon for my heart. After sustaining my first heart break, God allowed my eyes to be opened to new perspectives, new understandings, and overall, a new me. God allowed me to grow through pain. I actually came out stronger. Even when I thought I would buckle and not be able to get back up and try it again, God rose me up to become a better woman.




He used my pain to sustain me. Now, when I say this, I mean that God allowed me to experience certain heartaches and disappointments to make me better. Think about it. After the dust cleared from that broken relationship, you came out a different person. Whether it as denying him that late night "come over", refusing his phone calls, not texting them back, refusing out of town trips, all of that. Once you gained the strength to deny them, you now then acquired a level of restraint that you once did not possess.




Its amazing how you have to cut things loose in order to grow. That is true with cultivating a plant, allowing your hair to grow, and even in downsizing a company. Letting go should not always be viewed as a major lost, but instead as an opportunity to reinvent yourself and to abound higher than before.




Again, looking back at where God has brought me from, I know that he has kept me. The pain that I may have experienced only set me up for an awesome future in love. Because I have become better, stronger, and wiser from the past, I will be ready for what God has in store for the next level in my life.


Loving through my pain and knowing I'm better from it,


~Mel

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Let Tomorrow Get Here




Now, this is an area that I am notorious for, well, I have been in the past. I'm getting better. Worrying about tomorrow, next week, or even something later on in the year. What God has shown me time and time again is that, I am not to worry about tomorrow, because He is not done blessing me today.


"Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." 1 Peter 5:7


I just wanted to take a moment to reflect on the many daily victories that God has delivered me from. When I wake up each morning, I say, "Lord, I need a miracle today." Now, to me, a miracle is something that happens, that is totally against the odds, something that was statistically not supposed to happen. Now, when some people think miracles, they think of turning water into wine, the red sea parting, and being resurrected from the ground. But God performs tiny miracles on our behalves daily. Whether it be a court case being thrown out, not getting a ticket, an extra day off, your hair growing, face clearing up, a parking space, your flu mysteriously going away, someone giving you a coupon, a pair of shoes at a ridiculous price only in your size. Well, you get my drift.


"Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee:

because he trusts in thee." Isaiah 26:3


God is in the business of providing daily bread. He wants to take care of you day by day. Go back to the Lord's prayer. The 6th line says it clear, "Give us this day our daily bread". Not our weekly, monthly bread, yearly bread, but daily. If we pray this prayer faithfully, daily, we will be provided all we need. That's all God wants us to do. Its like winning the lotto. Instead of taking the cash option for 1 million dollars, we get a daily allotment of our riches. Lord knows if we had 1 million in our hands right now, it wouldn't be a dime left at the end of the year. (Don't judge my analogy, you get my point..lol) God wants to assure that you have all you need, when you need it. Every single day.


"Be anxious about nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passes all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6, 7


For if we dwell on tomorrows struggles with today's strength, what fuel will we have to face our "right now"? None. God said it so clearly in Matthew 6:34 "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Incredible huh? God knew that worry would be a reoccurring demon . He knew it would be easy for us to fall into the trap of looking at the negatives vs the positive. He knew that we would not always understand our journey. But He did know that we would be able to overcome it because He wrote it in His word and His words are true.


"All things work together for good to them that love God and are the called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28


What we will deal with and have dealt with is nothing new to God. If He told us everything right now, what would be the use of living to see it. Its like Christmas coming and you find out EVERY thing Santa brought. You're not sitting on the edge of your bed waiting for Christmas breakfast, to rush down to the tree, the anticipation would be gone. That same feeling can be equated to what God is going to do for your each day. On top of God granting you a new day, He will grant you small miracles throughout that very day, along with the strength to face anything that you will find along your path.


Stop worrying about what 2011 will be like, 2010 has just gotten started. Stop worrying about May, June & July, God has yet to bring you out of this month. Stop worrying about what February 12, will be comprised of, February just got here. And you need not be concerned with how to deal with your boss at the Thursday meeting because you don't know what will be waiting on your desk today. The truth to the matter is that there is no greater author than God. He is constantly strengthening and renewing us for our next chapter. When we go back and read our story, we will see His daily works on our behalf. Stand firm and know that He is refueling you as we speak for tomorrow, so use all the fuel you have right now for today!


Living this day all the way out... tomorrow will be here soon enough...


~Mel




Monday, February 1, 2010

"To My Husband... I Love You"....

I just had to take a moment and deal with one Mrs. Carter thanking her husband and saying, "I Love You". This was like MONUMENTAL for her. And I am happy that she has found comfort in telling the world that she loves the love of her life.
I recently read a blog that talked about an interview Jay-Z had with a magazine where he discussed his marriage, very vaguely. He didn't go into detail, but he did mention that marriage wasn't perfect. I really appreciated that.

Many of us in and out of relationships have this unrealistic, fairy tale ideal of what marriage should be. While it is important to remain optimistic and want the best for your relationship, we really should know that it is OUR relationship and we determine the success and failure of it. No matter what people say or have said, what works for you, works for you.
I think it's vitally important to tell the people we love, that we love them when the cameras are rolling. When everyone is watching, we need to take the opportunity to honor those we love and let the world know how important they are to us. That person wont soon forget that moment. And all those cameras have a record of that love you shared. Even witnessing Bey say it last night did something for me.
So, I say all of this to say that love is a feeling that should be visualized and verbalized. Show me you love me and say it too!
Can't wait to say.... "To my husband, I love you....."
~Mel

When you mess up, get back up



In life, we have all fallen victim to sin, temptation, sin, neglect, and just out right backsliding. Believe me, you are truly not alone. When I look back over my life at my moments of indiscretions and mistakes, I have seen God STILL make a move in my life. In the Bible, God used some of the most unlikely people as vessels.


Wash me thoroughly [and repeatedly] from my iniquity and guilt and cleanse me and make me wholly pure from my sin!

-Psalm 51:2


You see, its not about the act, its about the condition of your heart and how you get back up. When you mess up, get up! Don't wallow in self pity. Don't allow the enemy to tell you that you're not worthy of God's blessings or His Call on your life. You are worthy. You are the "one". You are the vehicle that the Lord needs to use to get the work of the kingdom done.


“You are a God ready to forgive, gracious and merciful.”
- Nehemiah 9:17


Regardless of what you've done, you need to have to have faith in who God has ordained you to be and walk in authority. Many times, we fall into the enemy's trap of guilt and make ourselves stay in a place of unforgiveness. It is like a disease that eats away our spirit and our ability to bless others. God has already forgiven you. Now you must get up and forgive yourself.


"Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing."

-Luke 23:34


Knowing the grace that God provides isn't a free pass to go back to those low places, but it is a pass to get out of them and to not return. When you learn from past mistakes and understand their role in your journey, there is no need to do a repeat.


So as you live your life and may fall short, get back up, stand tall, and know that God is watching your every move. Trust and know that God loves you for your heart and will towards Him. He is counting on your "comeback" to show others how good He is.
Getting back up and to work....
~Mel