"We Are All We Got"

Being the eldest of 3 girls has certainly had it's ups and downs over my 27 years, but I've embraced it. For almost 6 years, I was an only child, so I always liked to roll solo. Until my little sisters came. Everything I did, they did. Everything I said, they said. I swear I could do no wrong. I was like their own little super hero. lol. I was all they really had. Now, as an adult, my mom and I are like true BFFs. We suit up in our jogging suits and take Targets by storm, we touch and agree on the family's next breakthrough, and we confide in one another what we believe God has in store for us. I am all she has.

Many times, God allows us to be that "somebody" for people because He knows you can be trusted with their most inner thoughts and secrets. God brings people in your life for you to pour the goodness of Him into. If you think about it, some people in our life may never experience true friendship, love, kindness, and even the glory of God if it were not for us.

I always get mad when I get in a relationship and I'm giving 1000% out of the gate. Everyone is like, "Girl, I don't think he's that into you." Of course, I get super upset and start screaming to the heavens, "Really God, another user and abuser? I'm sick of this." And then I get back to regularly scheduled program. lol. So 2010, rolls around and we all send out the "I love you text, so glad you're in my life, happy new year, blah blah" text and I send it to a few of my homie/lover/friends. Honey, let me tell you, if I could read those texts back to you, you'd be in love. Thank God I am clothed in my right mind. I just stared at my phone and reread the messages at least 100 times a piece. I was like, "No this negro did NOT just say that he ___________". Long story short, he "low-key" professed his love and adoration, but he now realizes that I was a woman of God that he simply wasn't ready for. Talk about a "DUH" moment! lol.

As I proceeded to throw my Blackberry into oblivion, I heard the voice of the Lord say clear as day, "It wasn't about you, it was about me". Again, I'm looking up to heaven trying to figure out what God was working out. God revealed to me that many times He allows us to be better to other people, so one day, someone can be better to us. And it may not even be that person we were good to. It's like a cycle. With what God has placed in us, it is NOT for us. It is for us to share with so many others. Whether its our testimonies, our gifts, our stories, our triumphs, our trials, and even our smile, God wants us to be a little piece of Him in the human form.

I could never understand why I was the better friend or girlfriend and never received reciprocated treatment. It wasn't until I began to make different friends along the way. Many people went above and beyond for me and I couldn't even understand why. In my head I'm saying, "we aren't even friends for real, why is she buying me a gift. I didn't buy her a THING". But God told me to look back at my track record, at all the people I blessed, He said this is the GOOD payback. I began to embrace people being nice to me and knew it was God merely keeping the cycle going.

Until recently, I had totally been neglecting my blog, finding reasons why I was too busy and why I didn't feel like doing it. I promise you, God will not let you sleep until you're obedient. So, anyway, I declared as of January 1st, that I would make a conscious effort to chronicle the new dimension in my life. Let me tell you, God will send a witness, a ram in a bush, and an email/text to let you know that your obedience has not gone unnoticed. In just 10 days, I have received more correspondence from people saying I have blessed them, then I probably ever had. I was truly humbled by God's glory through me.

The moment I began to walk in my true gifting and in true obedience, God began to move mightily in the lives of others. You just don't know the effects of your obedience. Not only does your disobedience hold up your breakthrough, but it may be holding up a series of others'. The moment I made a decision to be a blessing to the masses, the enemy got real upset. I mean, I was being attacked daily. But I refused to curse God and I refused to stop writing.

That's what we have to do. Make a conscious effort to be a blessing to at least one person every single day. It will feed your purpose, prolong your life, and truly make it a better place. The moment we walk in our obedience and gifting, we will unleash God's glory not only on our lives, but in the lives of so many others.

So today my brother and my sister, I bless you. I command the blessings of Abraham upon you. I am blessed because I am blessing you. Now do the same for someone else. At the end of the day, "we are all we got"!

In the most sincere agape love,

~Mel

Be that somebody that someone can lean on and watch God strengthen you in ways you've never seen

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Time To Make Room For Manifestation....

One of my favorite things to do is to shop, everyone knows that. So, I'm always in the stores, looking, searching, trying to figure out what my next conquest is going to be. Of course everything is always on sale. With that being the case, I always buy 2 or 3 of everything, so when I get home I'm like, "Where is all of this going to go?". Before I can even bring my lovely new things home, I have to move some things around, get rid of some things and even give up things that meant something to me at some point.

Now, this is where is gets deep. In our lives, we are constantly asking for things from God with nowhere to put them. We go through life, piling up all the things we have been afforded and we begin to "hoard" them in a sense. In order to receive anything new, we must be willing to give up what we have that no longer have optimal usage. This is in regards to something as minuscule as an old t-shirt to toxic relationships.

We need to rearrange some things internally, in order for God to truly fulfill us.

That means, we have to re-prioritize, change some of our ideals, and even adapt totally new ways of thinking. What we think we know or what we are comfortable with might of been fine for when we were a freshman in college or when we just turned 21, but know its time for an upgrade mentally. We may have to change how things are being done.

God wants to give us all of our heart's desires. Truly He does. But, because we have not been obedient in getting rid of the former, to receive the greater, He cannot move. It's like waiting for your luggage at the airport. You rush off the plane, to make it to the conveyor belt, only to realize there is a back up in the baggage area. The flight before you is taking up the entire belt. The new bags cannot be received until the old ones have been taken away. So you have to wait. You ever wonder why some prayers seem to go unanswered and you seem to be stagnant in one area? Maybe God commanded you to purge that area and you have simply been dragging your feet.

You have to make a conscious decision to prepare for your harvest. You ever wonder why they say "Spring Cleaning"? That is the time where most people clean out their closest, re-energize their new year's resolution and try to get things back on track. The Spring time brings the most rain, which nourishes your harvest. And the Summer immediately follows, which brings the sun. So when your harvest times arrives, you've had more than enough time to prepare for what God has in store.

Many of us are still experiencing the Winters of our lives, or so we think. Winter is thought to be the most cold, brutal, and trying season. This is the season where your faith is truly tested. What God is showing you that is once you've been through your trial (Winter), begin a purging process (Spring), prepare for the cultivation of your harvest (Summer) and begin to rejoice in your victory (Autumn/Fall).

God is so incredible that He allows us to choose what we want to get rid of and focus on. But sometimes, we move a little too slow and He has to do it for us. If you just be patient and see the bigger picture, you will see that He has had your best interest in mind the entire time.

I don't know who is going through a major decision regarding a relationship, a job, or a major situation, but I charge you today to place it on the alter and leave it there. Have enough courage to know that God has you in the palm of his hand. If God takes that job, relationship, or situation from you, don't fret, know that He has an upgrade waiting in the wings. You have to let go of those former things, so you can begin your kingdom living. It might be that one more thing that's holding up your breakthrough. When you have the courage to let God do His thing, you will be amazed at his glory.

God is a god of restoration. Whatever it is that you have lost along the way or have gotten rid of, He sees your obedience and your sacrifice. You may not see it now, but if you just keep pressing your way and believing God for your manifestation, it will soon come.

Philippians 3:12-15

Pressing on Toward the Goal

12Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. 13Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.

Be still and know that as clean out your closet, God is already shipping out your breakthrough!

Making room for my next level!

~Mel

Just Let Go and Let God do what He needs to do.

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There is simply no greater love like the one God has for you & me. Here is a sweet worship song by Fred Hammond "No Greater". Begin to worship God for what He is taking out of you, so He can fill you will all His glory.

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Don't Ever Get Too Comfortable.. It Might Be Moving Time...Again!

One of my favorite past times has to be visiting different hotels and experiencing new hotels. I can remember one time, I went out of town, stayed in a great hotel, go to my room, and was like, "Uhhhh, I hate this room, but I don't have time to be changing rooms." So, I settled for what I was given, unpacked, got dressed and headed out on the town. Of course, I got back to the room, rather late, so I assumed I would be sleeping in. Well, the front desk thought otherwise. I got an early morning call from the manager with him explaining that I had the wrong room and would have to move. Right then! You know I was cutting up. But, I packed up my cute little luggaged and obliged. When I arrived to my new room, it was bigger, nicer, newer. When moving time came, I got a free upgrade. Wow! When I humbled myself, packed my bags, God moved on my behalf.

That's kind of like with God. As His children, we get so happy with where we are and what we are doing, we don't ever consider moving or changing. We think where we are is fine. We think that because we are comfortable, that there is no need to seek another alternative or another route.

I can remember being at my first job from college. It had taken me forever to finally get one, but I did, lol. One day I was out with my girls and I ran into my friend from school who was a realtor in Atlanta and he was like, "Mel, you really need to leave Miami, you're too comfortable here." Duh! Why wouldn't I be. I had a good job, I loved my co-workers, I knew all the back streets in the city, why would I want to move to Atlanta? I didn't know any people there, I didn't have a job, and I just wasn't interested in breaking my flow. Low and behold, my boss co-authors a grant and guess where it is at? ATLANTA! Right. God is a mess. lol. I was like, "Lord, I am not going to make it in Atlanta, it's this, it's that." Blah, blah, blah. I mean, I fought tooth and nail to get here. But guess what, I came. I got better friends, I was able to affect more youth one-on-one, I got more TARGETS!, and I even got closer to God. It was one of the best decisions that God has made for me.

You see, often time we get caught up in what we want, what we believe, and the direction that seems safe with us. Our ultimate goal should be to be where HE has us to be. I look at my dream board, my prayer book, and my daily reminders and pray, "Lord, if it be your will." We don't ever want to put too much emphasis on what WE want, we have to stay focused on HIS will for our life. Whether its dating a particular person, leaving a job, being laid off, budgeting, changing church membership, even as trivial as going out. We have to trust God to know that his will for our lives is greater than any thought that we could conjure up. He has wisdom, far beyond what we can ever have.

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. (James 1:5)

Whatever new situation that God places us in, we have been adequately prepared throughout our lives. I was recently faced with a very life altering situation, where I knew I would simply go crazy. But, as I was in the midst of it, I began to praise and lift God's name up.

Sometimes God does what we don't have the guts to do.

It's crazy because we think we have "arrived" by being in our place of comfort and God's comes to shake all of that up. Not to demote us, but often times it is to promote us. It may not be evident initially, but when the facts are all ironed out it is for our better.

God may even be trying to protect you. Our steps have been ordered and our stories have been written. Understanding that, God has seen what we will be faced with. He brings great shifting in our lives in order to keep us from harms way. And for that, we must remain grateful.

When it's moving time, we need not kick and scream. We should really remained partially packed and be ready to move when God says so.

Moving according to His will,

~Mel

I have chosen to share this video by Paul Morton... "Don't Do It Without Me"

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Don't Lose Sight, Make Your Vision Plain

Well, this is probably one of my most favorite things in the world to do. Cut up pictures, magazines, use cute scrapbook paper lots of glue, wheeew, you name it! Putting together a Vision Board (VB) is perhaps one of the greatest investments you can make in yourself and into your destiny.

Now, it's one thing to want to do something and to think about it often. But to visually see all that God has promised you and all that you want to accomplish, it's invigorating. There is power in SEEING things. Not just in your mind, but in your future, and in front of you. It is vitally important that you always keep reminding yourself of what God has promised you. All that he told you and all that you know.

With my VB, I've included things as trivial as what I want my hair to look like in a year, to the car I want to drive, the kind of man I want to marry and the kind of places I plan to travel. Now, the beauty of having a close relationship with God is that he hears your every requests, cries, and desires. But you MUST be specific. Its nothing like calling Pizza Hut to order a pizza and you're like, "just send me whatever", and get mad when they deliver a pizza with anchovies, onions, and sardines. lol. You have to be very, very detailed oriented with God.

That's where a VB comes in handy for sure! Not only does it let God know what you want, but it reminds you of what all of your struggles are for. What your prayer and fasting is for. What your light of the end of the tunnel is.

I've been doing VBs since late 1990s. I can remember as a freshman in high school, wanting to go to FAMU. Not wanting to pay a dime. So, I got my dad to get me a FAMU bumper sticker and I stuck it to the ceiling, over my bed. Every night, I visualized myself walking the highest of 7 hills, hanging with new friends, being the "IT" girl on campus. Low and behold, in 2000, I met the university president who handed me a specialized scholarship to FAMU. I wept like a baby. Never imagining that a bumper sticker and visualization would actually work. Things have been falling into place since, and I've been cranking out VBs like my life depended on it. lol

That's the place that God wants us all at. A place of raw belief and faith. A
place where we are saying, "Lord, you are all I have. I have no other hope but
you. Lord I trust you with everything I need and all that I am."

Let me tell you, that does something for God. Like a proud parent watching children feverishly write out their Christmas list. They know they have to make it happen because they are the only source. That's God. Our proud papa ready and willing to answer every prayer and every desire. Putting our VB together is like our perpetual life Christmas list. All we want and all that we know is a part of our life.

Ok, there is no right or wrong way to put one together. It merely a huge collage of words and pictures that mean something to you and that are directly connected to a major goal in your life. I usually divide mine by Love, Relationships, Friends/Family, Finances/Career, Spiritual Life, Car, Travel, House, Parenting/Kids, and a personal declaration. Now your board may consist of more or less, but it is entirely up to you!

Biblically, it was proven that writing things down and laying it before the Lord gave him something to work with. In Habakkuh 2:2-4 it says:

2 And the LORD answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon
tables, that he may run that readeth it.
3 For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry.
4 Behold, his soul which is lifted up is not upright in him: but the just shall live by
his faith.

The key part of the scripture to me is not only the writing it down part, but it warns you that "the vision may tarry". Even back in the biblical days, people were discouraged with the timing on things and the way things worked out. But be encouraged to know that because you have written it down and placed visuals to your goals, God has a CLEAR picture of what you desire.

Ok, Here are my past 3 that I have made. I have made several board and books. I am a super scrapbooker, so I have a whole bunch of creative stuff laying around. And I kicked the boo to the curb for the New Year, so I have A LOT of free time on my hands. lol.

My Vision Board 2010: The Land of Milk & Honey- Year of Overflow

My Vision Board 2009: The Year of Expectation

My Dream Book 2009: What Dreams May Come

Well.... I will leave you to work on your board, book, or whatever you choose. Remember, it's between you and God what you want in your life. So you're the only one that knows what it looks like.

Visually speaking...

~Mel

Consistency Is The Missing Ingredient

So, anyone who knows me knows that I absolutely looooooove the Food Network. Many nights I fall asleep to it, with hopes of finding one of the restaurants the next day. I watch it so much that there is a little Food Network logo burned into the corner of my TV. lol. Needless to say I'm a faithful steward of perfecting my craft of cooking and baking. While there are several different cooks with their own unique styles, one thing remains the same, the consistency of ingredients. When each cook begins cooking, they stress the importance of the right ingredients, the way they balance out, and the consistency of the entire mix. In baking the consistency is the texture, the look, the feel, and the ability to hold together. So if there is any smidgen of inconsistency, the whole dish is done for.

For some reason, that stood out to me. Consistency. The web dictionary defines it as: the same throughout in structure; the property of holding together and retaining its shape; agreement among things or parts. Wait a minute, you are not hearing me.....

Same throughout. Holding together. In agreement.

Baking is a whole lot like believing God for that next breakthrough. You have everything you need to make it, but you have to be consistent.

Prayer- equal parts of prayer throughout the day will equip you to sustain all tests, adversities, and storms.

The Word- reading the word on a regular basis allows you to read God's promises and witness his consistency. You can then use that same Word to encourage yourself, fight all battles, and secure your victories.

Partners- now, not all family and friends are deemed as your prayer partners. Takes a while to understand that, but it is very true. Sometimes, God will send you seasonal people in your life to get you to your next one. We often times try to force the new season on people who were never meant to be there (that's another blog entry *makes note in journal* lol)

Jesus- Now the word says in Hebrews 13: 8 "Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever." Whew! Now you talking about amazing? That means no matter what we do, where we go, what we say, Jesus is going to be the same Jesus that he has been to us. No variation. No additives or preservatives. The same good ol' Jesus.

You- Guess what is the missing variable in this lovely recipe? YOU! You are the difference maker. You have the innate ability to change your destiny, your situation, your direction by merely being consistent in your faith. Your ability to see the bigger picture. Understanding that your right now is not your forever. No matter what it may look like, you know the promises that he has made and you know that it has to get better.

Same throughout. Holding together. In agreement.

We have to remain the same throughout our struggles. If we are believing God for the sun to shine again. We can't tear up at the sight of rain. When we get a call/email/text that totally wrecks us emotionally, we cant immediately break down to the point where we can't be steadfast and believe that God is the same God that delivered us so many times before. When we get a "no" from someone or a company, we can't automatically assume that God has forsaken us. We must always stand in agreement with God knowing that he knows what we have need of, our deepest desires, and our pains.

With seeing the job that God has, I think we got off pretty easy with just being consistent. Now, not to say that being consistent is the easiest thing to do, but it definitely beats doing it all alone. With God as our rock and our guide, there is simply nothing that we cannot accomplish.

Consistency gets easier the more we do it. Then it becomes habit. Therefore our character.

I challenge you today to consistently look beyond your right now and believe God for all he has promised. If you don't know what that is, he will show you. Through prayer, worship, praise, the right connections, you will find him.

Consistently seeking Him,

~Mel

Your order is coming right up....

Since I'm still in the answered prayer mood, let's talk a little more about it. I was thinking about how when I was little I used to ask my parents for something and they assured that I would get it. When I didn't get it that VERY moment, I lost it. And me badgering them about it didn't make them move any quicker. Whether it was a trip to McDonald's or to Disney World, they gave it to me when they saw fit, in their timing.

Same thing with the big homie G-O-D ( ok, that was lame, I know.. lol) . He already knows that we want this, we would love to have this, we need this. That's not important to Him. Calm, down. He is certainly concerned about us being supplied for. What I am saying is that God is concerned first and foremost about our relationship with Him. He wants to be assured that we love Him enough to know that whatever we have need of will be taken care of. "Things" mean nothing, "we" mean everything.

I have caught myself so many times praying for the same thing or throwing a spiritual tantrum about the same ol' same ol'. I can literally hear God saying, " My child, if you could just see what I see. If you could just see what next week, next month, or next year holds." You have to be able to hear His voice and accept His answer. Whether it is him telling you to leave the only man you've ever loved for the one He has for you to fulfill your purpose with, or to leave a high paying jop to go work for the church, or to go on a fast the day you get a coupon book for the local buffet. You have to be willing to accept what God says and what he allows.

I recently ordered a pizza and God spoke to me saying, "The same way you just ordered, I've heard your cries and supplication, your order is coming right up." And a light bulb came on. It was a "WOW" moment for me. When you order a pizza and they tell you your order will be ready in 30-45 minutes. You're supposed to just wait for the doorbell to ring right? No, you and your smart self decide to speed things up. lol. So, instead of waiting the allotted time, you decide to call again to place the same order repeatedly. The operator is like, "Ummm, didn't you just call? You're order is in route, just wait." It's common sense to wait right? Of course it is.

That's the same thing with prayer. You don't have to keep calling to place your order with God. First of all, he already knows your order when you call. Kinda how Pizza Hut knows you like a pan pizza with light sauce, heavy cheese, lots of veggies and NO MEAT! lol. (Ok, maybe that's just for me?!? lol) But really, God knows what you can bear, what you can handle, what you are equipped for. He takes all that into account when you place your "order". Sometimes we "order"the wrong things, but God knows just what is right for us.

So when you place our "order" next time with God, just wait. That's it. He will deliver. He always does. Your order is coming right up.......

~Fly Orderer

Be careful what you pray for.....

......you might just get it...

In the morning, O Lord, you hear my voice. In the morning I lay my requests
before you and wait in expectation.(Psalm 5:3 NIV)

Well, I'm back in full effect now. So, I was in the airport a few weeks ago and I got the lovely news that my flight would be delayed for 6 hours!! Whaaaaaaaaaaat the heck! (I really wanted to say "hell", wait I said it..lol) Anywhoo, I was super pissed! I was like, "what exactly am I supposed to do for 6 hours dude??!". And for an overactive bunny like myself, I knew this was another test from the "big guy". So, I'm sitting there at the 1.4 hour mark about to pull out the hair I did have and I'm like, "God, can you pleeeeeeeeease send me somebody to talk to. And make him cute?! " lol. And guess what? He came. And we talked for the remainder of our layover. And he was seated next to me on the plane. The rest is history, been the "boo" since! lol.. Talk about a quickly answered prayer. God is awesome.

That's the thing with God. He hears all of our requests, our pleas, and our cries. No matter how minuscule or monumental they are. He hears them all and takes them all into consideration. He answers them in His timing and in His will. No matter what. Sometimes, we just so happen to line up on the same timetable and when that happens, it's magical! lol. It really is.

God's grace and mercy are simply magnificent. When I experience His swift works, I'm in amazement. There is nothing like seeing God working in your life, right before your eyes. There have been times I was in the parking lot of Target and been like, "Lord I need a parking spot", and one opens up immediately. And even when I asked God for a new career, a new car, and even a new man, God has moved within His plan for me. And when I look back down that tunnel called progression or read the pages of my life, I see that He has been in control the entire time.

Even in the heartaches, the pain, the disappointments, the misunderstandings, the misdirections, He's taken an account for it all. When I pray, I know that God has my best interest in mind. He created me and knows what I am equipped for. No sense in me praying to win the lotto when I won't even balance my check book. Or pray for a man (husband), when I'm not ready to share my bed or my Honey Smacks. lol. It's really that simple.

There are so many stories that I could share that could show you how God has done a quick work and even how He has taken His time. It seems that we all can. The one thing that we must all share in common is expectation.

Just know that when you pray.....you might just get it ...

~Fly Prayer.....

What are you looking at?

Have you been somewhere and notice someone staring at you for no reason at all? The "attitude" in you wants to be like "what are you looking at?" What you may not know is that you might actually be witnessing to a person.

Ok, let me explain. If a person looks at you, what do they see? Happiness, sadness, laughter, joy, peace, beauty, fierceness, or even God? Everyday, we encounter a myriad of people and we take our spirit with us. What our mouth doesn't say, our gestures, heart, and spirit does.

I've been notorious of saying, "Dude, what is it? What are you looking at?" and catch a complete attitude, but God corrected me. He told me clear as day that I was what someone needed. I'm usually pretty "glammed" when I come to work, so one day I decided to go completely natural, no eyeshadow, no blush, and a flat wrap. One of my co-workers was like, "Girl, what happened, you ok". I was like, "yeah, what's the big deal?". She went on to say that I reminded me of her mother that was always dolled up and well put together. Her mother passed away years ago.

Now you see, little did I know that seeing me all dolled up made an impact. That happens to each and everyone of us day to day. We have to be confident in who we are regardless of what others may so. The very thing that someone may deem as a flaw, might be the most beautiful and precious trait.

We should be aware of the subliminal messages that omit each day because we could truly be a blessing in disguise for others. A person could be hopeless, but sees that we are encouraging and filled with faith, and they may walk away feeling empowered. A person may have low self esteem, but sees our quiet beauty and our fashion sense and walk away feeling fabulous. A person may be lacking in the relationship department and see you with your boo or BFF and they feel encouraged knowing that God has someone from them. They may not know Christ, but they see how diligent you are in your works, and see Christ right here on Earth.

You see, sometimes, it's not about the big things that you can do to make an impact, it's the little things. Opening a door, paying someone's parking meter, bringing an extra sandwich for someone at work, or even helping someone up when they fall. You might be the God they need to see for the day.

When they say God is omnipresent, that doesn't necessarily mean He roaming the earth like a dinosaur. He's in me and you. It is ever so important that we know this because it will totally transform the way we think about ourselves and our interactions with others.

So today, instead of wondering why someone is looking at you, wonder what they are seeing. You might be the difference they need to go on.

Be blessed and know that you are the one that God will use today!

~Looking Flyly Blessed

Use your gifts wisely....

Using your gifts really should be added as a commandment...lol. Each and everyone of us has a unique gift. You may not know it or understand it, but you do. And every gift is unique to every person. Look at the entertainment world. All the actors, singers, song writers, rappers, dancers, etc. If all of our gifts their gifts were identical, then there would be no award shows, no record sales, none of the that. Everyone has their own way of using their gift to the best of their ability.

It is important to use our gifts. Not to make ourselves to look better but to glorify God and direct people to the kingdom. It is important, that is why God gave us different abilities to do things. You never know who you may be attracting to Him. God knew that when He created us. He knew the journey that we would once take, the people we would once meet, and the challenges that we might face. And he also knew he had to equip us with a gift that would prepare us for it all.

Some people may be blessed with more than one gift. That doesn't make them any better or worse, it simply means increased responsibility and more possibilities for growth. Proverbs 18:16 says, "A man's gift makes room for him And brings him before great men." This means no matter what God has blessed you with, no matter where you go, it will be your key to making it to the next level.

Usage of gifts opens up doors to favor, prosperity, and deliverance. So today, find your gift(s). No matter what your area (or areas) of expertise may be, trust that God is going to propel you to the next level. You have to be prepared for it through a prayerful life and confidence in God. Once you surrender to your calling and who you are to be, there is nothing that you cannot have.

~Flyly Blessed and Gifted

Sometimes I Wish I Could See What He Sees

Have you have wondered why God loves us so much? What He wants us to do? What He sees for our future? Well, I have. Often times I sit back and wonder, "Lord, what is it that you see in me?". I'm not perfect, I don't always do what I should, I don't know if I am where I want you to be. All of these thoughts go through my mind. But just as clear as day, God says, " I see Me in you." Even when you think you're not doing what you should, or who I want you to be, it's ok. You have been created in my image. So when I see you, I see Me.

No matter how life seems to take you off course or through ups and downs, God says, look for me. Even when you have had the worst day ever. God says, "Look for me". When you're let down, when you're heart is broken, when you don't know what to do, God says, "Look for me". He says, " I am the way, the truth ,and the light. "

I really wasn't going to post anything today because I was feeling a little less than fabulous, but somehow, I always find my healing through ministering to other people. Then I log off and read it myself. lol. I know, I know, kinda silly. But that's how God is. He created us, let us have free will in the earth, and He left it up to us to find our way back. That's how good God is. He knows that we may fall short, He knows that we may have disappointing moments, but He reminds us, that He's in charge.

So, in my "less than fab" state, I still know that ultimately God has the first and the last say in any situation. Nothing is ever too big or too small for Him. Take it to the altar and leave it there.

~Flyness and Blessings...

Speaking of Not Easily Broken

Sooooooo, I'm doing this fast thing (biblically, you're not supposed to tell everyone that you're fasting, but I'm only doing it on here because I dont know who it may minister to). And whhhhhhhhhhhhy does every commercial come on with meat filled entrees and savory dishes? Goodness! I'm right on the edge of grabbing me a wing! lol. But when I thought of the goodness and mercy that God has bestowed upon me, it's just not worth it.

People have been asking me, "How are you doing this" and "Why"?. My simple reply is obedience is better than sacrifice. (I Sam 15:22 And Samuel said, Hath the LORD as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of the LORD? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to hearken than the fat of rams.) Now, this statement has been interpreted in so many different ways. To me it is saying, when God tell you something, you need to do it. You need to be obedient. What good is it to sacrifice your 1st check for first fruits, if you're still sleeping with someone's husband? You disobedience completely cancels out your sacrifice. Now, I am not saying to sleep with anyone and not to tithe, what I am saying is clear. You must be obedient in order to receive the fullness of God's glory. It is critical to your survival.

I was reading some sermons online and reading more about what this scripture really means and it makes sense. We as saints are doing God such a great deeds by giving him money, time, or ourselves. But guess what, it ALL belongs to him anyway. We are merely returning what already belongs to God. What really, really gets God's attention is when we submit to his will and are obedient. That is worth mountains more to him. Your sacrifices are important, because it shows that you give reverence to God. Obedience is when you truly follow his word, which is what he wants us to do ultimately.

According to Webster's Revised Unabridged Dictionary, the definition of obey is as follows:

1. To give ear to; to execute the commands of; to yield submission to; to
comply with the orders of; 2. To submit to the authority of; to be ruled by; 3.
To yield to the impulse, power, or operation of; as, a ship obeys her helm

When reading the definition of "obey", the word that jumps out to me is submit. Now this is not an easy thing to do. Submitting is like when God commands you to stop dating a guy that you feel is the total package. In your mind hes "the one", but God has deemed another young man as the one. Or when God has commanded you to change your lifestyle or to fast, you simply ignore his command. You have to know that everything God tells you to do is for a purpose. Know that God always has your best interest in mind (Jeremiah 29:11, do some research playa!..lol). But really, you have to know that no matter what, submission is key to being a believer. Its key to getting results.

Now, since all these food commercials are getting to me, I HAVE to get in the bed. I am not going to give the enemy any room. lol.. I refused to be easily broken!

~Flyly Obedient

Scriptures that work!

These are some powerful scriptures, ENJOY!

Corithians 15:58.........Therefore, my dear brothers, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.

Mark 9:23.........Jesus said unto him, If thou canst believe, all things are possible to him that believeth.

1Sam 12:16........stand and see this great thing which the Lord will do before your eyes...

Luke 18:27.........The things which are impossible with men are possible with God.

Num 23:19.........God is not a man, that He should lie. Has He said, and will He not do it?

Jas 1:4..............But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.

Rom 8:31...........If God be for us, who can be against us?

2Tim 2:1............be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus.

2Tim 1:13..........Hold fast the pattern of sound words...in faith and love...

Col 3:2..............Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth.

Col 3:23............Whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men,...

Mark 9:23..........If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes.

John 16:33.........In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.

Rom 8:18...........consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.

Rom 8:37...........Yet in all these things, we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.
Rom 8:39..........(Nothing can) separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Rom 8:28..........And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.

2Tim 4:5............be watchful in all things, endure afflictions, do the work of an evangelist, fulfill your ministry.

2Tim 4:7............Fight the good fight, finish the race, keep the faith.(paraphrased)

Mic 7:8.............Do not rejoice over me, my enemy; when I fall, I will arise; when I sit in darkness, the Lord will be a light to me.

Phil 4:13...........I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

1Jn 4:4.............(You) have overcome them, because He who is in you is greater than he that is in the world.

Phil 1:6............(Be) confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ,...

Phil 4:4............Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I say, rejoice!

~ Holy Flyness

The Daniel Fast

Well, in the new year, I am believing God for A LOT, so I am sacraficing my meals. Lord, this is going to be interesting.lol. I have included all the details for what The Daniel Fast is about and how to actually follow it. I will keep you posted. :-)

Why Daniel fasted:

The concept of a Daniel fast comes from Daniel 1:8-14, “But Daniel resolved not to defile himself with the royal food and wine, and he asked the chief official for permission not to defile himself this way. Now God had caused the official to show favor and sympathy to Daniel, but the official told Daniel, ‘I am afraid of my lord the king, who has assigned your food and drink. Why should he see you looking worse than the other young men your age? The king would then have my head because of you.’

Daniel then said to the guard whom the chief official had appointed over Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael and Azariah, ‘Please test your servants for ten days: Give us nothing but vegetables to eat and water to drink. Then compare our appearance with that of the young men who eat the royal food, and treat your servants in accordance with what you see.’ So he agreed to this and tested them for ten days.”

The background of the Daniel fast is that Daniel and his three friends had been deported to Babylon when Nebuchadnezzar and the Babylonians conquered Judah (2 Kings 24:13-14). Daniel and his three friends were put into the Babylonian court servant “training program.” Part of the program was learning Babylonian customs, beliefs, laws, and practices. The eating habits of the Babylonians were not in complete agreement with the Mosaic Law. As a result, Daniel asked if he and his three friends could be excused from eating the meat (which was likely sacrificed to Babylonian false gods and idols).

So, a Daniel fast is eating only fruits and vegetables for a certain amount of time and abstaining from meat products. Some people use a Daniel fast as a dieting method. Some people use a Daniel fast instead of fasting from food entirely. The Bible nowhere commands believers to observe a Daniel fast. As a result, it is a matter of Christian freedom whether to observe a Daniel fast.

Theme of the fast—fasting and prayer: Your goal in fasting is to become closer to God by voluntarily denying the demands of your flesh. Increase your prayer life during this time. Study the Scriptures with a new intensity. When the fast is over, you should have a new spiritual strength from overcoming the cravings that usually control your life and from dedicating yourself to God.

Biblical model: Do a personal study of fasting. In the book of Daniel, chapters 2 and 10, Daniel describes two examples of his personal fasting and the dramatic results. Isaiah described God's chosen fast in Isaiah 58. Jesus fasted in the wilderness (Matthew 4, etc.) and spoke of the necessity of fasting for believers. It was a normal part of early church life. Fasting is one way we respond to the admonition throughout the Scriptures to die to our self-will and not to accommodate the desires of the flesh.

Following your own conscience: The precise details of your fast are between you and God. In Romans 14, the apostle Paul describes how we should relate in love to one another in the matter of what we eat or choose not to eat. He says, "Each person is free to follow the convictions of his own conscience" (Romans 14, The Message). If you fast often, you may need to turn up your fasting another level during this time. If this is your first fast, you may not be able to endure as many restrictions as someone else who fasts frequently. In the future, live a "fasted lifestyle," increasingly accommodating God and not the flesh.

Accountability and support groups: You will probably be most successful with this fast if you make yourself accountable to at least one other person during this fast. You may want to form a group of from five to seven people who meet occasionally or talk by phone. Encourage one another. If someone falls and eats the wrong foods, do not condemn them. Help them start again. Walk in love and mercy.Restricting television and entertainment. It will be difficult for you to consecrate yourself if you feed yourself on television and movies during this time.

Overview of the fast: The Daniel fast drastically restricts normal food intake by cutting away many of the foods you commonly eat to satisfy your appetite. During the Daniel fast, there will be a sense of hunger much of the time and a sense of sacrifice even when we eat. We recommend that you restrict yourself to only one meal a day, leaving a small hunger.

Side effects: You may experience moderate to severe headaches for the first day or two as your body rids itself of caffeine, salt, sugar, and various impurities. You may need to take Advil, aspirin, or a Goodies (smile).Important exceptions: Anyone with a medical condition related to eating or under the treatment of a physician must consult their doctor. Children, especially small children, will have special needs that must be considered. Under these conditions, find some sacrifice in the area of food that can be made without endangering health. Also, if you have extreme difficulty with the fast, such as impairment of your ability to work at your job, you will have to make adjustments. This is not a failure of will but is wisdom. Seek the Lord and discuss it with other Christians involved in the fast to find alternatives."God's kingdom isn't a matter of what you put in your stomach . . . It's what God does with your life as he sets it right, puts it together, and completes it with joy. Your task is to single-mindedly serve Christ."(Romans 14, The Message)

Step One: Be SpecificDaniel was not vague in his objection to the Babylonian diet. He defined the problem immediately.
The king's food was against dietary laws.
Daniel and his friends had vowed against wine.
The king's food had been offered up to idols/demons.

Step Two: Fast as a Spiritual CommitmentThe Daniel Fast involves a spiritual commitment to God. "Daniel proposed in his heart that he would not defile himself" (Daniel 1:8).

Step Three: Reflect Inner Desire by Outer DisciplineMany people have an inner desire for better health, but they can't discipline themselves to avoid junk food, and other foods that are not good for their health. The physical health you seek from God may be more than an answer to prayer. Your physical health can be linked to any of the following factors:
-Your food choices.
-The level of your spiritual commitment as reflected in constant prayer during the fast.
-Your time commitment. If you determine to fast for a certain time, keep it. For example, if you determine to fast 10 days, don't stop on Day 9.
-Your testimony commitment. Your fast is a statement of faith to God that you want Him to heal your body, and faith is foundational to the Daniel Fast.

Step Four: Pray to Perceive Sin's Role in Poor HealthNotice James 5:3-16:
Sin is something related to the cause of sickness.
Lack of health/healing may be the result of spiritual rebellion.
Lack of health/healing may be due to sin of wrong intake, i.e. drugs, pornography.
Repentance is linked to health according to James.
Elders have a role in healing both spiritual and physical health.
Sick people must desire to be well
The anointing oil could mean
Medicine for healing,
Symbolic of the Holy Spirit, or
It could be baptism
Prayer alone may not gain healing, faith is the major factor.
In Greek there are several words for "sick". James uses "Kanino", which not only includes disease, but also means weak or weary.
Attitude is important. James said, "are there any among you suffering? Let him pray. Is anyone cheerful? Let him sing psalms."

Step Five: Fast as a Statement of Faith to OthersDaniel was making a statement of faith when he asked for only vegetables to eat and water to drink, then dared the overseer to compare the appearance of the four sons of Israel with the young men who ate the king's food.

Step Six: Learn the Effects of the Food You EatWhy are some foods good for us, and other foods not? What does certain food do to your body? If we really knew, there would likely be some things we would never eat again.
Step Seven: Yield All Results to GodDaniel said, "as you see fit, deal with your servants" (Dan. 1:13).

Remember:
The Daniel Fast will lead to spiritual insight. "to those four young men God gave knowledge".
The Daniel Fast is longer than one day. These young men fasted for ten days.
The Daniel Fast is a partial fast. They ate, but only vegetables and water.
The Daniel Fast requires abstinence from party or junk foods.
There is no indication that they ever began to eat the king's food.
Food Guidelines for a Daniel Fast

Foods You May Eat:

-Whole Grains: Brown Rice, Oats, Barley

-Legumes: Dried Beans, Pinto Beans, Split Peas, Lentils, Black Eyed Peas

-Fruits: Apples, Apricots, Bananas, Blackberries, Blueberries, Boysenberries, Cantaloupe, Cherries, Cranberries, Oats, Figs, Grapefruit, Grapes, Guava, Honeydew Melon, Kiwi, Lemons, Limes, Mangoes, Nectarines, Papayas, Peaches, Pears, Pineapples, Plums, Prunes, Raisins, Raspberries, Strawberries, Tangelos, Tangerines, Watermelon

-Vegetables:Artichokes, Asparagus, Beets, Broccoli, Brussels Sprouts, Cabbage, Carrots, Cauliflower, Celery, Chili Peppers, Corn, Cucumbers, Eggplant, Garlic, Gingerroot, Kale, Leeks, Lettuce, Mushrooms, Mustard Greens, Okra, Onions, Parsley, Potatoes, Radishes, Rutabagas, Scallions, Spinach, Sprouts, Squashes, Sweet Potatoes, Tomatoes, Turnips, Watercress, Yams, Zucchini, veggie burgers are an option if you not allergic to soy.

-Liquids: Spring Water, Distilled Water, 100% All-Natural Fruit Juices, 100% All Natural Vegetable Juices. You may also drink protein drinks.

-Others:Seeds, Nuts, Sprouts

Foods to Avoid:

-Meat

-White Rice

-Fried Foods

-Caffeine

-Carbonated Beverages

-Foods Containing Preservatives or Additives

-Refined Sugar

-Sugar Substitutes

-White Flour and All Products Using It

The Curious Case of Living......

Soooooo, I finally saw The Curious Case of Benjamin Button and I have been inspired ever since. This has to be one of the best movies of our time. Like, seriously. I cried, I laughed, I was intrigued, I was changed!

I think what I took away from the movie was the power to love without limits. Benjamin possessed such an incredible power to live beyond his current circumstances. He was never consumed by his inadequacies where he couldn't live. He rarely said "no" and he was rendered powerful. I think the true driving force in this movie was Queenie, Benjamin's foster mother. Her character was reminiscent of the way God looks at us. (I don't know if you've seen the movie, but bare with me.) When Benjamin's father abandoned him and left him on Queenie's door step, she didn't scowl at him and throw him out with the trash. She saw the beauty of God in him and saw fit to his upbringing. God does us the same way. When the world turns its back on us time and time again, God finds something great in us and worth using.



I sat in the theater and my mind was racing 100 mph. God really revealed some things to me. I was taking notes like I was in class. lol. This movie had so many points, I couldn't grasp them all. I've written a few quotes below.



Give your year a kick start and go see this movie. It's worth it. I promise!



-Sometimes the people we remember the least, have the most impact

-You gotta do what you're meant to do

-When someone leaves us, we really know how to loveand miss them.

-Its the way it goes

-Where would we be if everyone acted according to their conscience

-You never know what's coming for you from God

-When you come home and everything seems the same, you realize what's changed, is you

-Our lives are defined by opportunities. Even the ones we miss

-God will keep reminding us why we are still alive

-U can be mad at fate, but when it comes to an end, you have to let go

-A series of unexpected incidences often lead us on an unexpected course

-Things happen when they are supposed to. We don't know it until they happen

-Sometimes when u choose to do something so unique, there's an appointed time frame and

window to do it.

-None of us is perfect forever.

-Find purpose and live it

-Loving is worth everything

-Anything is possible

-Its never too late or too early to be who you want to be.

-U can change who you want to be.

-Never put any limit on it.

-Feel things u never felt, meet new people, live a life you're proud of.

-Always find the strength u need to start all over if you're not happy with who u are

-Some things u will never forget. Young or old.





~Curious Flyness

First Fruits for 2009

What Does It Mean To Give First Fruits?

Being a PK, Pastor's Kid, I have always had to understand the concept of giving. Many people cannot comprehend a person giving the bulk of their earnings to a ministry/church. This is the time of year where many churches are gearing up for First Fruit sacrifices. Now, many theologians may argue about the calendars that may be followed and when first fruits should be given, but nonetheless, the principle is still the same.

In order to reap a harvest, a seed must be sown. What you do is between you and God. Investing in God is always a win-win situation, so you will always be blessed regardless.

Here's an article that pretty much breaks it down. I think it is pretty accurate and gives a great deal of info concerning First Fruits.

“Honor the Lord with your substance and with the first fruits of all your produce; then your barns will be filled with plenty, and your vats will be bursting with wine.” (Proverbs 3: 9-10)

Making an offering to God of the first and best portion of all we receive. We do this both as a sign of our love and in thanksgiving for all the many blessings we have received. We offer not only the first fruits of our financial resources, but a generous portion of our time and talent as well. We give in proportion to what we have received. This means we give from our substance and not from our surplus. Giving only from our surplus leads nowhere. It is an action which has no power to transform either our values or our lives. Giving from our substance requires a sacrifice and leads to conversion of mind and heart.

Placing God first in our lives. This means making God’s priorities our priorities. When we place our loving Creator at the center of our life, we become more prayerful, more focused on loving and caring for our families and our neighbor in need and less preoccupied with material things.

In short, we find the true source of happiness and fulfillment that we all seek and that the Lord alone can provide. It’s been said that “People make the time and find the money for what they value most.” We must challenge each other, as disciples of Jesus Christ, to value God above all else. This belief will lead us to put our faith in action by finding the time and money to promote God’s priorities because we have made them our priorities as well.

Planning our giving. This way the Lord of our life receives the first portion instead of what’s left over in our wallet or purse when the basket passes our way on Sunday morning. We generally plan the things in our lives that are most important to us. When we plan our giving, and set this money aside first, we demonstrate the great importance that God and the support of the Gospel have in our lives.

Acknowledging our Creator as the source of all we have and all we are. Everything we have ultimately has been given to us by our God. We are called to be good stewards, caretakers, or managers of these gifts by using them for God’s purposes and priorities.

Putting our trust, security and faith in God, instead of in money and possessions. When we give our gift at the offertory, we are expressing our belief that God will “make good” on the solemn and repeated promise given to us that we would be taken care of. We trust in faith that the 90% that may be left after we give our gift will be enough for our material needs.

Giving the way God gives and loving the way God loves. From the beginning of time, our Creator has given humankind the gifts of life and unconditional love. One day our God saw fit to give the first fruits of love for us, the sacrificial gift of an only son, Jesus. Jesus gave his own life for us on the cross. He set an example for us of giving unconditionally and of sacrificing so that others might live. We walk in the footsteps of Christ when we give sacrificially a part of our substance so that others might live. The Scriptures tell us that those who follow the example of Jesus will be the first fruits of the redemption (James 1:18 and Revelation 14:4).

“As soon as the word spread, the people of Israel gave in abundance the first fruits of grain, wine, oil, honey, and of all the produce of the field; and they brought in abundantly the tithe of everything.” (2 Chronicles 31:5)

~With Fly Giving

Just A Minute

In this new year, we must all commit to truly cultivating our relationship with God. Not only are you not reverencing God, but you are also doing yourself a great disservice. I know it first hand. I will start off great reading my bible for a few days straight and then I start trickling off. I see the difference immediately. I am not as optimistic and my spirit just isn't the same. Once I get back into the groove of things, I am right back on track.

This post is going to be short because I really need to go ahead and read my bible befor my eyes get too heavy. lol. Set your alarm clock on your phone to ring at the same time everyday or night. Make it a habit to read your bible daily. You must equip yourself before the war, not during the war!

Let me go on and read my word. Hope you do the same.

Here are a list of free daily devotionals that will help you with receiving your daily bread:

http://www.kcm.org/about/index.php?p=daily_devotional

http://www.joelosteen.com/site/PageServer?pagename=devotional_signup

http://www.streamingfaith.com/community/devotional/default.aspx?bhcp=1

http://www.joycemeyer.org/OurMinistries/EverydayAnswers/dailydevotionals/20090103.htm

These are just a few. You can always google "daily devotionals" and find a myriad of different resources!

~Fly Reader

2009= Year of Expectation

As the clock prepares to strike 12am and brings in the new year, so many thoughts are running through my head. Lord, what is this year gonna be like? Then I think to myself, what will 2009 be about for me? I know I'm staying away from the cliche resolutions. It seems I always lose sight of what I set out to do. So I'm simply going to live by a theme, A Year Of Expectancy. With all the seeds sown and tears shed in the past t2 years, I'm simply declaring a year of jubilee.


While God is a God of grace, he is also a God of reward. There is no way that the righteous shall be forsaken and I am certainly no exception. In living my life accordingly to his will, I know there will be great reward. Regardless of what the current situations may look like, I know the best is yet to come.

So many people often find themselves in a place where they are tired of doing 'the right thing' and they give up. The moment they give is when their breakthrough is around the corner. Its like running a marathon and stopping just short of the finish line.

In making my theme 'Expectation' I am changing the tides. By declaring victory over every trial in advance, I've already won. No matter what the circumstance, God will make me the victor. We have to know that God has something great in store for us and begin to live in positive expectation.



Whether its finding a parking space, getting a raise, triumphing over sicknesses, a family member being saved or winning a million dollars, I expect breakthrough for 2009 in all that I do. And I am believing the same for you. You need only touch and agree that this is your year and it shall be done. Be blessed and prepare for what God is about to do for you.


~In the flyest expectation

To be loved... To love....

To fall in love is simply amazing.... reading these lyrics has truly reignited the flame for someone we should all be loving and constantly in pursuit of ... Christ! To know that there is someone who has your back no matter what. Whether you succeed of fail. Whether you let him down. Whether you are right or wrong. God loves you in spite of. That is simply amazing.

Enjoy

~Fly Love

"What Is This" By Mary Mary

[verse 1]

What is this that took my life and made it beautiful?

What is this that holds me close and never lets me go?

What is this that tells me better days are yet to come?

It's your love that gives new mercy every morning

What is that that gives me peace in every circumstance?

What is this that broke the chains that made me free at last?

All this joy i have there's nowhere i can hide it

It's your loving, i must tell the world about it

[b-section]Your love has captured me

In ways i can't describe/

with mere words

I need so desperately

To be closer to you every minute of my life

[verse 2]

What is this that wipes my tears when life is hard to bear?

What is this that takes my hands and leads me everywhere?

Never leaves me nor forsakes me that's your promise

It's your love and there is nothing else just like it

What is that makes me want to live each day for you?

Even though i can't repay the way you brought me through

What is this that makes me want to keep you smiling?

It's your love, your sweet love that changed my life - yeah

[b-section]

[hook]

Take my heart and make me over

Lord, because i love you

You're my soul, my life my source of everything

The very reason why i live each day in love

I live each day in love with you forever

If you love something.....

"If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it dosent, then it was never meant to be"

~Anonymous

Often times in our lives, we have people that we deem important and ultimately love to pieces. But then we find ourselves in a place where we may love them more than we should or than they deserve. In that case, we must let them go in order to keep growing.

The letting go is the most painful, but the most necessary.We can continue to love and support this person, but we must have the discipline to not let this person have the best of us. Like in the bible when Ruth was working in the field, you must keep busy doing what God has for you. Now, when love returns, it may not be the same person. God may send a greater version of this person. One that can give you all that you deserve and require.

Now, from personal experience, I swear this is the hardest thing to do. To wait. One of the greatest spiritual fruits is patience. It is said to be a virtue for this very reason, it's not always easy to do, but has the greatest reward. The moment we step out of God's will and decide not to go with his "waiting" plan, we allow ourselves to come from under his covering of grace. We have to be ever so careful with this. While we think we may deserve a certain relationship with a certain person, God may be saving us from something or even ourselves. The wonderful thing about God, is even when we go astray, he forgives us and lets us get back on track.

In relationships, we have to trust him wth your whole heart. Sometimes you have step outside of something to see what it really looks like or even what it really felt like. Like the saying says, "you can't see the forest for the trees". When you're in something, you can't see it. God will always grant you the right discernment in His timing. When the revelation, be prepared. That's where growth comes in.

I can remember loving someone and realizing that he simply was not the one for me. It hurt me to the core, but I had to trust God. With all my heart, I wanted God to make him what I wanted, but it just wasn't working. It was in this moment that I knew God was really working a miracle in me. You couldn't have told me that wasn't my husband without me losing it. In hindsight, that relationship was pivotal to my growth and the woman I was to become. I love him to this day and don't hesitate telling him. We are dating other people, and I often wonder "what if", but it's too late, because I prayed that God's will would be done.

That's it. I let him go, and when he came back, he wasn't necessarily what I needed. I wanted it to work, but in order for me to be the person that God destined me to be, I knew that it would take a difference person. So in my pursuit, I am putting on glasses that project God's image and will, and not my own. My plan hasn't worked so far, so obviously I have to go with the winning team, GOD's!

So Fly Girls, this is a point of realization that God is the one and only true authority on what is right for our lives and who needs to be in it. Let Go and Let God. It's all we can. Watch and see....

~Flying....

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