Showing posts with label I Heart. Show all posts
Showing posts with label I Heart. Show all posts

Tuesday, March 31, 2009

How to jump out, when you've jumped in head first!



Ok, it's been a minute. After you read this, you will know why. lol.


So, you meet a new guy, he's darn near perfect, you have a great time with him, you have a zillion things in common, and you're like, "This is it!". For 3-4 weeks, you're non-stop with this guy, you've learned more about him than you know about yourself, you spend every free moment with him, he's your quintessential BFF and boo. You have those future talks about marriage, kids, life after being single all that blah,blah stuff and you're like, "is he trying to get serious????" lol. A million questions are running through your head. You like him, but do you like him,like him? Does he like you like that? You freakin' panic... but then it happens! You're like, "WAIT!!!", it's moving waaaaaaaaay too fast. lol.


You try to slow it up without halting it, you monitor every word so it's not too "binding". Meaning, you don't know if you're ready to make him "the one", but you don't want to go through the hassle of filling that void again. You want to see him everyday, but you don't want to seem too pressed. It starts to get rather complicated mentally, and you are wrecking your brain trying to decide how to address it.


So, obviously I've dealt with this in the past and it was interesting to say the least. I liked this guy, he loved God, was totally great on paper, great skin, cutie pie, all that. We saw each other 23 hours of the day, literally! lol. It was cool until we both started getting those commitment jitters where we knew that was the natural next step, but both weren't willing to take that deep plunge just yet due to past hurts and complications. So what's next? We like each other, but not enough to be totally exclusive, but best believe I would have an attitude with someone else.


My question is, how do you slow down without coming to a halt? You see I'm all over the place with this blog because I've experienced it in the past and kinda, sorta dealing with it now (I hope he's not on here...lol)

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

New Music Tuesday...




"...it's Keri baaaaaaby...."


Keri Hilson's album comes out today and I am pretty excited for her. She's been in the game for a minute! She's super talented and seems humble overall. I am going to actually buy her album.. lol. If you want to here samples of it, go to Amazon.com. It has the typical electric Timbaland sound. I likes!


Here is the track listing:

1. Intro

2. Turnin Me On ft. Lil Wayne

3. Get Your Money Up ft. Keyshia Cole & Trina

4. Return The Favor ft. Timbaland

5. Knock You Down ft. Neyo & Kanye

6. Slow Dance

7. Make Love

8. Intuition

9. How Does It Feel

10. Hey Girl ft. T-Pain & Lil Jon

11. Alienated

12. Tell Him the Truth

13. Change Me ft. Akon

14. Energy

15. Where Did He Go


The video for "Knock U Down" w.Kanye and Ne-Yo










My favorite songs of hers are High Heels and Superhuman w.Chris Brown












Friday, March 20, 2009

Loving Flaws and All........

Don't get so caught up in what you feel you don't have that you overlook
what you do have.
~ Me


Ok, I have been guilty of this time and time again. But have you ever woke up one morning and realized that you had a HUGE zit on your face? Yeah, you have. You pick at it, you put astringent on it, you look at your compact all day. Complete "stress mode". Now mind you, you just got your eyebrows down, your hair looks great, and you have on some great new pumps, but you are so focused on this awful zit, that you can't even recognize your own fabulosity. So throughout the day, you are convinced that everyone is staring at this zit and you are having a complete mental breakdown. So one of your cute co-workers comes up to you and says, "Hey, you look nice today," and gives you his winning smile. Instead of you saying "thank you", you're like, "With this huge zit, I know you can't be talking to me." He simply replies, " I didn't even notice that, and I still can barely see it."

You see, that's how God is. He sees us in all our greatness and glory. He doesn't see our minor flaws and sins, He sees the purpose He has placed in us and all the wonderful things that He has in store. We get so caught up in our sins and our past, that we feel God can't use us or make us great even in our lowest moment. But guess what? He can. There are so many great men and women in the Bible that were used as vessels for the Kingdom of God. Now, these men and women were not always kings, queens, and high priests. They were those who fell from glory, those who lacked confidence in themselves and their gifts, and even those who lived lives of sin. God was still able to use them.
The difference between 2 sinners is the one that decides to ask for forgiveness and leave it with God and the other one asks for forgiveness, but carries the burden of guilt. We have to understand that God loves us and can use us no matter what our circumstances or transgressions have been. That's the beauty of having a relationship with God. He will bring the best out of you and help you realize your full potential.
Yeah, I had a zit recently, but I kept it moving. The moment I forgot about it, it was like I wasn't there. I met all kind of people. (Not just cute guys... lol) But really, people are attracted to confidence and greatness. Regardless of how I started that morning, I made it my business to pull it together and enjoy my day. That made all the difference in the world.

So, no matter what flaw you feel you may possess, love yourself in spite of. Whether it be as minuscule as a zit, or as monumental as a handicapped, your are fearfully and wonderfully made. And nothing else matters.
Love yourself.... with the "flaws and all"....
~Flyly, fearfully, and wonderfully made...

Monday, February 23, 2009

Movie Review: Madea Goes to Jail

Yes, I went to see it, on opening night at a predominately Black theater. lol. You know the real comedy was going on in the audience. Between the church folk, the new parents, those "booed" up, and even those on the late night creep, we all joined together to support good ol' Tyler Perry!


Now, at first, I was like, I really hope this is better than Meet The Browns and Daddy's Little Girls. I am an avid Tyler supporter, but those 2 were not that great. Boy was I wrong. I think America was having Madea withdrawals over the past few films, but honey, Tyler gave us all an overdose of our favorite 6'5 matriarch in drag! lol.


The film was centered around Madea and her wildly lovable behavior. She reminds everyone of someone in their family, church, or community. I swear, she gave a gut busting performance at every turn!


My favoirte comedic scene was when Madea decided to leave the house on a suspended license and head to Kmart. Madea is riding through the parking lot and this quirky white lady in a little red sports car decides to zoom in front of Madea to get a parking spot. You know Madea went off right?! Madea tells the lady she is going to move her car and low and behold, she does. With a forklift! lol. Too hilarious. Consequently, the lady's husband was a police officer and they go to Madea's house to take her tail BACK to jail, where she is sentenced by Judge Mathis! She didn't go to jail without a fight, literally. She gave those officers a run for their money. All 6'5 of her (him) in a house dress rumbling and tumbling was too funny!



The concurrent storyline features a young buddy Assistant District Attorney, Derek Luke who is engaged to this Mulatto chick. I didn't bother to look up her name because I didn't like the way she did Derek ( Yea, I am totally biased! lol). He runs into an old childhood friend, Keisha Knight Pulliam, who is now living on the streets and turning tricks. This storyline of redemption turns into a lightweight love story, so you know I was all in! lol. I love the on screen chemistry they had, it was so believable. Keisha truly tried to break out of the Rudy Huxtable that we all knew. But she still rocked a remarkable white smile and gorgeous locks. (Couldn't help but to throw that in) .

Then Madea gooooooooooes to jail, hence the title. This is where the 2 story lines collide. Of course, Madea and Keisha were in the same area in jail. Madea becomes her surrogate guardian, keeping folks off of her and make a cute comical pair.


My absolute favorite part of the film was the scene where Derek Luke broke down. I won't give it all away, but that chocolate delight all emotional did something to me. (Not like that y'all..lol) To see a Black man show such intensity with his emotion was absolutely breathtaking. He did that!

Overall, the movie was chicken soup for the soul. More like mac-n-cheese, cabbage, and fried chicken for the soul. lol. It was filled with a gamut of emotion and certainly was worth seeing on opening night. I would recommend this movie to anyone that is down and needs a good laugh. You will literally laugh out loud.

Go support Tyler, you will just love it!



~ Fly laughter....

Fly Guy: Derek Luke




Now, I have always been a fan of Antwone Fisher, but baby, let me tell you, that Derek Luke did his thang in Madea Goes to Jail. In the midst of the riotus humor, Luke brought a true sense of unconditonal love to the screen.


I just wanted to take this moment to focus on the great talent of Mr.Luke. Now, the thing I love about Derek Luke, is that he was discovered while working at the Studio Emporium gift shop on the Sony studio lot. Now if that isn't a testament of God finding you right where you are! You have to be at a place where God can use you. No matter what, you must be obedient! And not only this, he actually replaced Wesley Snipes in Miracle at St.Anna because Snipes had all those tax issues. Another testament of how God will have folks put OUT of place to put you IN place!


His rather brief bio, as provided by Wikipedia is as follows:


  • Luke was born in Jersey City, NJ , the son of pianist Marjorie Dixon and Guyanese native Maurice Luke, a former actor.

  • He has two brothers, Daniel and Maurice.

  • He is a graduate of Snyder High School in Jersey City, New Jersey.

  • Luke married singer- actor Sophia Adella Hernandez in 1998 ( I know, such heartbreak! lol)

  • Luke was discovered while working at the Studio Emporium gift shop on the Sony studio lot and given the Fisher role

  • Luke played one of the four male leads in Spike Lee's 2008 war film, Miracle at St.Anna replacing Wesley Snipes who had to leave the film due to his highly-publicized tax problems (Won't God do it)

  • He plays Alicia Keys' love interest in her new video Teenage Love Affair

  • Luke played Sean Combs alongside Jamal 'Gravy' Woolard as The Notorious B.I.G. and Angela Bassett as Voletta Wallace in the 2009 film Notorious.

For no other reason, I celebrate this Fly Guy for his ordered footsteps!!!



~I Heart Fly Guys!

Saturday, February 14, 2009

Happy V-Day: 10 Fun Ways to Say I Love You

Here's a cute article that I found....

Creative Valentine's Day Gifts
10 Fun Ways to Say I Love You
© Erica Arnold
Jan 6, 2009

Valentine's Day Gift Crafts

Coupon book: An oldy but a goody. Who can say how long the coupon book has been around, but it needs an upgrade. Gone are the days of the “take out the trash” coupon or “do the dishes” coupon. Now it’s time for “a back rub after a long day’s work” or “win the next disagreement.” No matter how nice or naughty the coupons they are sure to be greatly appreciated.


Love letters/poem: Send a love letter or poem from a famous author every day starting February 1, then on Valentine’s Day present an original love letter or poem. Use nice stationary and after Valentine’s Day get the pages bound together so it can be a keepsake.


Go somewhere fun like an ice skating rink or a great museum and then at the end of the night give a gift to commemorate the event. The gift can be something made or bought from a gift shop.


Make a scrapbook page with pictures of a special event or fun day from the past and frame it.
Valentine's Day Gifts that Last All Day


Cater to you: Set up the whole day to cater to the other person. TiVo or DVR their favorite shows, cook their favorite meals, run a bath and give them a massage. Be sure they don’t lift a finger for their special day.


Spa day: Buy bath salts, or milk bath, candles, massage oil, pedicure products, etc., from the drug store and set up a spa at home. Invite the lucky lady or guy over and pamper them.
Valentine's Day Gifts for Couples to Enjoy Together


Make chocolate candy together: An Occasional Chocolate has everything needed to make delectable chocolates similar to those found in stores at home for less. After the candy is made enjoy it together.


Take a couple’s cooking class: Local community colleges, culinary schools, and even some grocery stores have cooking classes. FYI, these classes fill up fast.


Give a nice bottle of alcohol and enjoy it that night over a great meal.


Weekend get-a-way to a bed and breakfast: Plan a “get-a-way” to a bed and breakfast. Bed and breakfasts offer a different experience than a hotel room and aren’t very far away. Many times they offer home cooked or gourmet meals and are located in areas where there are lots of things to do.

History of V-Day!




Every year we celebrate Valentine’s Day without knowing the true, ture history of it. Here is some research that I gathered about this lovely February 14th holiday…

Give love on this day ~!

~Fly Lover

Valentine's Day or Saint Valentine's Day is an occasion celebrated on February 14 by many people throughout the world. In the West, it is the traditional day on which lovers express their love for each other by sending Valentine's cards, presenting flowers, or offering confectionery. The holiday is named after two among the numerous Early Christian martyrs named Valentine. The day became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished.


The day is most closely associated with the mutual exchange of love notes in the form of "valentines." Modern Valentine symbols include the heart-shaped outline, doves, and the figure of the winged Cupid. Since the 19th century, handwritten notes have largely given way to mass-produced greeting cards. The sending of Valentines was a fashion in nineteenth-century Great Britain, and, in 1847, Esther Howland developed a successful business in her Worcester, Massachusetts home with hand-made Valentine cards based on British models. The popularity of Valentine cards in 19th-century America was a harbinger of the future commercialization of holidays in the United States.


The U.S. Greeting Card Association estimates that approximately one billion valentines are sent each year worldwide, making the day the second largest card-sending holiday of the year, behind Christmas. The association estimates that, in the US, men spend in average twice as much money as women

Legend has it that Valentine was a priest who served during third century Rome. There was an Emperor at that time by the name of Claudius II. Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those that were married. With this thought in mind he outlawed marriage for young men in hopes of building a stronger military base. Supposedly, Valentine, decided this decree just wasn't fair and chose to marry young couples secretly. When Emperor Claudius II found out about Valentine's actions he had him put to death. Another legend has it that Valentine was an imprisoned man who fell in love with his jailor's daughter. Before he was put to death he sent the first 'valentine' himself when he wrote her a letter and signed it 'Your Valentine', words still used on cards today.


Perhaps we'll never know the true identity and story behind the man named St. Valentine, but this much is for sure...February has been the month to celebrate love for a long time, dating clear back to the Middle Ages. In fact, Valentines ranks second only to Christmas in number of greeting cards sent.


Another valentine gentleman you may be wondering about is Cupid (Latin cupido, "desire"). In Roman mythology Cupid is the son of Venus, goddess of love. His counterpart in Greek mythology is Eros, god of love. Cupid is often said to be a mischievous boy who goes around wounding both gods and humans with his arrows, causing them to fall in love.

Thursday, February 12, 2009

Definition of love?

There are so many definitions of love, that we could probably have a separate dictionary for it. I think love has different definitions for different people. To me, love is unconditional, relentless, sometimes renders you powerless, encompassing and empowering at the same time, it transcends you to the heavenlies when its pure, it makes you look into someone eyes and know that everything is okay, its an unspoken language that is shared between kindred spirits and souls, a language that only 2 hearts understand, a longing to make everything ok, one's ability to make another feel appreciated. Love is when you're gone for days on end, and when you return, it never feels like you were ever gone. To love is to feel right at home in another person's soul. It's a spiritual longing to make someone else whole. Above all, to feel loved, is to feel heaven on earth.




Above all, to feel loved, is to feel heaven on earth.



The bible says love is in 1 Corinthians 13:4-13

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is
not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps
no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always
perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will
cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge,
it will pass away.
For we know in part and we prophesy in part,
but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears.
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I
reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.
Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to
face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully
known.
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the
greatest of these is love."



Sonnet XLIII, from the Portuguese. Elizabeth Barrett Browning - 1806-1861

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. I love thee to the depth and breadth and height My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight For the ends of Being and ideal Grace. I love thee to the level of everyday's Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light. I love thee freely, as men strive for Right; I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise. I love thee with the passion put to use In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith. I love thee with a love I seemed to lose With my lost saints, -I love thee with the breath, Smiles, tears, of all my life! - and, if God choose, I shall but love thee better after death.



No matter what definition, poem, song, story, movie, or novel that has been written, love is determined by how you use it and how it uses you... Man, love is something else.... Ok, your turn.... What is love?

~ Loving Flyness

Thursday, January 29, 2009

Thug Love: Favorite Rap Songs About Love!

Some of my favorite rap love songs! My ideal man has to be a Fly Nerd with a Hip-Hop thug edge. I know it sounds crazy, but I think I already found him. I hope he comes to his senses before I decide to keep it moving.....

Enjoy!

I Need Love
by LL Cool J

Girl, listen to me
When I be sittin in my room all alone, staring at the wall
fantasies, they go through my mind
And I've come to realize that I need true love
and if you wanna give it to me girl make yourself seen
I'll be waitingI love you


Pulling Me Back
By Chingy

To all the fellas know you feel me, if you ever had a woman,
Good times led to bad times and you ain't see it coming,
Tried your best to make her happy,
But it wasn't enough,
'Cause mama told me in relationship the road gets rough
And I ain't the one to have my head down
Weak and stressed out
As bad as it hurts I gotta move to the next route
(Uh) I thought I was her man
Guess she ain't understand
N now she's sittin' hurr looking crazy likeDamn!



Mind Sex
By Dead Prez
African princess, tell me yo interests
Wait, let me guess boo, you probably like poetry
Heres a little something I jotted down in case I spotted you around
So let me take this opportunity
Would you share a moment with me, over herbal tea?
Take a walk verbally, make a bond certaintly
Cuz in my hand I bet your hand fit perfectly
And its like we floatin out in space when you flirtin wit me
Cmon, a little foreplay dont hurt (hmmm)



You Got Me
By The Roots

Somebody told me that this planet was small
we use to live in the same building on the same floor and never met before
until I'm overseas on tour and peep this ethiopian queen from philly taking classes abroad
she studying film and photo flash focus record
said she workin on a flick andcould my click do the score
she said she loved my show in paris
at Elysee Montmartre
and that I stepped off the stage
and took a piece of her heart
we knew from the start that
things fall apart, intentions shatter
she like that shit don't matter when I get home get at her
through letter, phone, whatever
let's link, let's get together



Song Cry
By Jay-Z

Good dudes - I know you love me like cooked food
Even though a nigga got move like a crook move
We was together on the block since free lunch
We shoulda been together havin 4 Seasons brunch
We used to use umbrellas to face the bad weather
So now we travel first class to change the forecast
Never in bunches, just me and you
I loved your point of view cause you held no punches
Still I left you for months on end
It's been months since I checked back in
Well somewhere in a small town, somewhere lockin a mall down
Woodgrain, four and change,
Armor All'd down
I can understand why you want a divorce now
Though I can't let you know it,
pride won't let me show it
Pretend to be heroic, that's just one to grow with
But deep inside a nigga so sick





Smile
By Lloyd Banks

Whenever I'm not around, and you feelin down
Let the thought of me be (I be the reason you smile)
I don't wanna see you frown, like them kids watch a clown
I wanna bring you joy and be (I be the reason you smile)
Baby, you know my style, you know how I get down
I provide by any means to be (I be the reason you smile)
We done been through ups and downs, had drama for a while
I'm just happy I'm around to be (I be the reason you smile)



Best Friend
By 50 cent

Separate me from the rest, I feel like I'm the best
If there's a price to pay for feelin you I pay that twice
I'm as ghetto as it gets girl you know that's right
I ain't got nothin to hide baby I tell you my secrets
'Fore you end up bein 'round long enough to peep shit
I get closer to you, I mean closer than close
I get into you, after I take off my clothes
Girl I been into you, mentally long before



Prototype
By Andre 3000

i hope that you're the one
if not,you are the prototype
we'll tiptoe to the sunand do thangs
i know you like
i think im in love...again
i think im in love...again
(today) today must be my lucky day baby
you are the prototype
let's do somethin out of the ordinary
like catch a matinèe baby
you are the prototype
i think i
i think im in love...again
i think im in love...again
if we happen to part
Lord knows I dont want that
but heywe can't be mad at God
we met today for a reason
I think im on the right track now




Uncondtional Love
By Tupac
Intro
(What y'all want?)
Unconditional Love (no doubt)
Talking bout the stuff that don't wear off
It don't fade
It'll last for all these crazy days
These crazy nights
Whether you wrong or you right
I'm a still love you
Still feel you
Still there for you
No matter what (hehe)
You will always be in my heart
With unconditional love



You're all I need
By Method Man

Shorty I'm there for you anytime you need me
For real girl, it's me in your world, believe me
Nuttin make a man feel better than a woman
Queen with a crown that be down for whatever
There are few things that's forever, my lady
We can make war or make babies
Back when I was nothin
You made a brother feel like he was somethin
That's why I'm with you to this day boo no frontin
Even when the skies were gray
You would rub me on my back and say "Baby it'll be okay"
Now that's real to a brother like me baby
Never ever give my cootie away and keep it tight aight




The Light
By Common

I never knew a luh, luh-luh, a love like this
Gotta be somethin for me to write this
Queen, I aint seen you in a minute
Wrote this letter, and finally decide to send it
Signed sealed delivered for us to grow together
Love has no limit, lets spend it slow forever
I know your heart is weathered by what studs did to you
I aint gon assault em cause I probably did it too
Because of you, feelings I handle with care
Some niggaz recognize the light but they cant handle the glare
You know I aint the type to walk around with matchin shirts
If relationship is effort I will match your work
I wanna be the one to make you happiest, it hurts you the most
They say the end is near, its important that we close.... to the most, high
Regardless of what happen on him lets rely



Love Is
By COMMON
Yeah, yeah[Chorus]
How beautiful love can be
On the streets love is hard to see
It's a place I got to be
Loving you is loving me
How beautiful love can be
On the streets love is hard to see
Gotta reach that frequency
Loving you is loving me
[Verse 1]
Yeah, you know what love is
Even found it on the ground where the thugs live
My man had to dig deep to find his
Couldn't sleep 'cause on the real he had five kids
Live nig's, real niggaz express and taste it
At crap games, black dames and big faces
Cases in court, fam' showin' love and support
You and your baby's mom thought that love was a sport
As men we were taught to hold it in
That's why we don't know how 'til we're older men
If love is a place I'ma go again
At least now, now I know to go within
At time it can take ya for a spin
Heartbreak hotel then you're home again
I've seen love make a nigga soul pretend
Like a story that he don't want to end
Yo
[Chorus]
[Verse 2]
It's all love where we come from
In the hood love we was told to run from
That same hood where the guns sung
We holla love, hopin' it would come one
Crack got so many lives undone
From lack of love many hide some run
I knew this girl with a son who dreamt of actin' in plays
Demonstration with her man had her trapped in a maze
Tryin' to find herself again, much of that she'd have gave
Love can free us, to it some of us react as a slave
Funny, we love 'em more when they're relaxed in a grave
Wonder if a thug is raw, is he actin' afraid?
Everybody loves sun, why do I attract shade?
Heard of the love of money, but compassion it pays
Talk about it with my youth so she'd understand
What it is to be loved by a man
Uh
[Chorus]
[Verse 3]
Some say that I'm a dreamer 'cause I talk about it often
Seen the hardest nigga soften wit' his homie in a coffin
We walk and stand in, fall in it
With the right companion we all in it
Mary sang a song about it, having broad limits
In the game of life, it's the scrimage
Reminiscing on letters I wrote in my small days
A letter to the people, love always
Yeah
[Chorus]

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After I did all this research, I found this site:http://www.lovesongsinhiphop.com/... Gotta love it!

~ Hip, Fly Love

Tuesday, January 27, 2009

Do I keep dating the same guy?



“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”- Bejamin Franklin


Now, I did the craziest thing today! I did a matrix of alllllllll the guys I've dated. I grabbed pictures from myspace, facebook, some old scrapbooks, picture mail, all of that. And I started looking at all these characters. I was like, "Wait, do I keep dating the same guy?"... lol... They all had great smiles, loved God, winning personalities, dressed well, all of that. But guess what? I am not with any of them anymore :O(


Is it just me or have you found that sometimes you’re attracted to the same kind of guy, and they even have behaviors similar to your ex? Then you have the nerve to get mad that they end up acted just like the last fool you dated! Wait, it gets better, YOU BLAME THEM. The same saga continues, same script, different cast!


What happened? I experienced many of the same issues after my different relationships became settled. So I'm thinking maybe it's not them, maybe it was something that I was doing. Maybe what my "ideal man" looks like is not the one that God wants for me. Or maybe God is keeping me for some purpose. These are the thoughts that run through my head when I meet different guys and actually entertain dating them. "Lord is this it, is he the one?" I have to stop myself from doing that because every person you meet is not meant for you to marry.


I have been so perplexed by why all my ex beaus reminded me so much of one another that I had to do a little research. In one article, it says that when we date similar people, it concisely illustrates how we make choices. We have to learn from our experiences, take responsibility for our choices, and ultimately make different ones. This not only goes for dating, but across the board in life.


I think it's ok to be drawn to certain characteristics in a man that seem familiar to us, but we have to recognize dysfunction when it approaches! It has to happen in the beginning. Of course you can't possibly know allllllll the ins and out of a person upon first meeting them, but you have to become at discerning. You have to look at the bigger picture. Can this person be a part of my destiny? Does he complete me? Can I see myself loving him when his hair turns gray, the muscles turn to flab, and if the checks stop coming in? Those questions may seem a little far fetched, but you have to always think with the END in mind.


In knowing that, I realize that every guy I've had dealings with were all a part of the journey. I've learned so much about loving a man, being a better woman, defining & embracing my worth, and how to prepare for my ultimate destination, my HUSBAND!


So in this dating game, be conscious, be aware, and be wise. You never know what God may be doing. Stay prayed up and prepared! You might just get what you pray for~!


~ Fly Dater


Saturday, January 24, 2009

Neo Soul does it every time


Well, you all know that I absolutely looooooooooove neo-soul music! It is something about the lyrics and the creative usage of instruments and vocal ability. There is really no need to elaborate on the greatness of all of these artists, but here is a list of some of my favorite songs/artists!



MAXWELL- "Til The Cops Come Knockin' " (Entire Urban Hang Suite Album) ,"Maybe You", Drowndeep:Hula, Know These Things: Shouldn't You, Mello: Sumthin (The Hush)



Kindred the Family Soul - "Stars", "My Time", "All that you are"



Conya Doss "Meantime"



Algebra Blesset "What Happened"



Jill Scott- "The Way" , "The Fact Is ( I need you)", "My Love", "He Loves Me" , "I Think It's Better" (and just about EVERYTHING)..lol



Erykah Badu - "Next LIfetime", "Time Wastin' ", Didn't Cha Know"



PJ Morton -"I Need To Know", "No Ordinary Love"

Lalah Hathaway- "If U Ever", "We were 2", "Learning to Swim", "Forever for Always, For Love",


India Aire- "Beautiful Surprise"

Just a few... lol

~Fly Soul Lover