When A Man is Ready....

Lately I've been running into some really great catches. Men with great careers, great level of intellect, 401ks & savings, sharp dress codes, handsome faces, and a love for God that is undeniable. They all keep asking me, where are all the good women? That's baffling to me. All reports say that it's a 20:1 ratio for women to men (that may be a little exaggerated, forgive me). That can't be possible right? Maybe not.

When a man knows what he wants, he just knows. He's not willing to compromise, budge, or take anything less. The crazy thing is, they spend a substantial amount of time with one woman and after a while decide that she simply is "not the one". But they can turn around and meet a random woman and fall in love instantly. It's like they just know.

In the past few months I've made it my personal quest to pick the minds of great men. What they want, what they need, what their futures look like to them. All of them say the same thing, "they want the right woman at their side." Most of my guy friends may or may not come from a home with a father in it, but they ALL have come from a home with a mother in it. They have witnessed what a real woman should look like and they know what she should encompass. While they are not looking for a carbon copy of their mother, they all want their woman to have many of her same qualities.

As many women who are itching to be married, not all of them are taking the time to adequately prepare to become one. It's like they are so consumed with the ring, the ceremony, and the title, they neglect all the foundational elements. All of my girlfriends can cook, clean, iron, pray like elders in the church, know how to "put it down" behind closed doors, and know how to submit biblically. Then I meet other women and strike up casual conversations about life and the future. These other women rarely cook, go to church to just meet men, and drink like fish. They always end up saying, "Girl, I met a really nice guy, he's trying to wife me, but I am not going to slow down to fit his lame standards." Huh? Isn't that crazy?

It's funny, when a man is ready to settle down, it's a WRAP! Their whole lives begin to revolve around finding the right woman and doing it like they do in those old black and white movies. Sad thing is, they end up falling for women who on the surface want to be a wife, but internally want to be the quintessential single girl with a diamond ring. That just isn't going to work.

A man that is ready is READY! He's willing to go the extra mile. He's willing to do things that he ordinarily wouldn't do when he was casually dating. He wants everything he does in dating to prepare him for marriage. He tailors his whole lifestyle to reflect that of a man that is preparing for a family and a lifelong union.

As women, we must begin to act as though this man is on his way. Whether we are dating someone seriously or not, we need to behave as someone's "good thing". We can pray until our knees bleed, but if we do not begin to walk into the steps of a virtuous woman, we cannot be mad if this man has not found us. Trust me, there is a breed of men out there that know what they want and it might just be in you. If you are busy doing what God has asked of you, your man might just be in the wings watching you.

Every move you make today should be towards the woman that you aspire to be.

Walking upright in virtuous steps.....

- Mel